Letters to the Editor
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oh please
Why the immediate admonition against women? Women wouldn't feel the need to snoop if men didn't keep secret accounts (which are almost always used for porn memberships, dating sites they don't want their SO to know about, and stuff like that)in the first place.
I've known lots of women who never thought of checking up on their SO's online activities until they came across something leading to a personal ad or hidden email account. Of course you're going to want to find out what else your partner is lying about!
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Sidenote...
I do want to point out that age might possibly be a factor.
1 in 4 married couples have a joint email account.
This could be due to the fact that married couples tend to be older. Honestly, I cannot for the life of me understand the concept of a joint email account. It truly boggles my 25 year old mind. I email everyday. I go online everyday. It's a big deal to me!
When I thought more about it however, it would make sense that an older person who isn't as technologically integrated as the younger generation, hence not care about having their own personal email account.
just a thought
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some characters
The type of adult who'd snoop in other people's e-mail is the type of person who snooped in other people's diaries as a kid. Lousy character shows up early and stays late.
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You Might As Well Have Titled Your Post "Big Dumb Gender Fight".
As a guy, Farhad, I'm asking you to stop being That Guy. The one who fulfills the stereotype of the tech geek who acts nice but deep down kinda hates women.
If you'd pry your eyes away from the Swimsuit Model site, you might act like a real tech geek and ask the hard questions about the validity of Google's poll.
How was it conducted? What was the the sample size and methodology? What were the questions asked.
Such things don't matter as you're seeking to stir the pot with minimal percentage differences, not noting 73% of both sexes aren't sneaking or peaking.
I think this counts as deliberate outrage mining.
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Women who say they are not lying
Are lying.
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You SHOULD have your own email account, it should be "expected," not "secret"
I can see why couples would have a joint (or, in the case of those with kids, a "family") email account--for essentially the same reason they would have a joint checking account. It's for handling things that are related to both of you, like party invitations, cards, probably even online bills. It can be a practical thing.
That said, it shouldn't be your ONLY account. I am not interested in wading through my partner's relationship-insensitive grad student mail. He is not interested in wading through my equally relationship-insensitive women's networking group mail. Neither of us is interested in reading mail from the other's mother, which is very much directed to the child, not the partner. The way my mail program works, it would be a logistical nightmare, too--I'd constantly be accidentally deleting unread mail that wasn't mine, or accidentally marking it read, and I'm sure sometimes I'd fix it and sometimes I wouldn't, and he'd do the same thing. Not to mention that we'd be trying to read it from two computers--only works if you use webmail, which we're not. Yuck.
I do know a married couple who shares (only shares), and they're my age (early 30s) and also work in the tech industry. Boggles my mind, frankly. I don't know anyone else who does.
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I have multiple secret/anonymous email accounts
But it has nothing to do with sneaking around for sex on the side and everything to do with protecting my anonymity from the prying eyes of the Police State government.
There are GOOD reasons to setup and keep "secret" and anonymous emails that go beyond hunting for a little 'something something' on the side.
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Character
What constitutes a "secret" email account? Or does it become secret only when it is used to deceive a partner? I have several email accounts, one for work and several personal accounts. Am I required to clue my partner into everything that runs through my various accounts? Or are we getting back to the deception issue? I think we are. So really, deception is deception whether its via email or cell phone or regular nights at the local motel six when your partner thinks you're at you're bowling league.
And people who snoop are going to snoop wherever they can.
Email is just another medium for the pathology.
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Oh, please leave out the sexist tosh
So, a few percentage points difference in the number of men vs women who "snoop" in each other's email, and we "ladies" get told not to do it? Give me a break.
Personally, I wouldn't dream of allowing my partners access to my personal emails, or would I expect it in return. I don't record all my conversations with my friends and play them back for my partners' edification either. The only reason that people have to make private accounts "secret" is because they're being secretive. How hard is it to say "Yes, here's my email address, no, you don't have permission to access it."
Ok, I can see a use for a joint email account so people can contact you jointly. Otherwise, grow up and use your own logons on a shared machine and your own email accounts.
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If older people are more wary of love and political letters in email maybe that's because they don't want to get bitten in the ass
later on.
Or, if another GOP president replaces this one, end up in a Montana gulag in 2011.
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_Thank_ you, softdog...
>As a guy, Farhad, I'm asking you to stop being That Guy. The one who fulfills the stereotype of the tech geek who acts nice but deep down kinda hates women.<
I'll heartily second that emotion. And it's not just tech geeks--journalism boasts a ton of guys like this. :P
>How was it conducted? What was the the sample size and methodology? What were the questions asked.
Such things don't matter as you're seeking to stir the pot with minimal percentage differences, not noting 73% of both sexes aren't sneaking or peaking.<
Does anyone understand what a "majority" and "minority" is anymore? Does anyone understand that a small sample doing something does _not_ mean the rest do it? And does anyone understand that this tactic is one bad journalists use to get a rise out of people--but it is one that has helped dumb this country down?