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Can you refute my claim that to show people respect is better than not?
I don't refute that claim, Tommy, I just think you're being a little disingenuous when you say that all you're trying to do is be polite and create peace in the world. My perception of you is that you use the "Miss Manners" business as a passive-aggressive way to attack other commenters while telling yourself you're above the fray yourself. Obviously, I could be wrong, but that's how I see it.
I agree with you that words do harm and hurt. As I alluded to in my previous post, I do my level best to avoid being a total dick here, with fair-to-middling success. I do try to be honest, though.