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Sunday, Nov 8, 2009
I find it amusing (and sick) that most mainstream American men (and the mainstream women who wish to attract them) find the ideal women to be one who is 5 foot, 10 inches tall, wears 44 DD bra, weighs 96 pounds, and has a "butt like a ten year old boy."
In other words, to me, "Boys with boobs."
What madness is this? I prefer voluptuous women!
Is that so wrong?
If one reads Desmond Morris's classic "The Naked Ape," one might infer as I did that the reason that the human female alone developed enlarged mammary glands was to display the eroticism usually found by most human males (and virtually every mammal) on a female's front, which encourages "missionary position" sexual congress.
Did you ever wonder what the missionaries were trying to discouraged in their "uncivilized" flock? Why, it was rear entry congress! It also encouraged face to face sexual congress...hence the term.
To quote Agatha Christie's Hercule Poirot in "Murder on the Orient Express," I, too, am a connoisseur of the retreating form of a woman."
In other words, I adore women who have callipygian (look it up!) bottoms! And I heartily concur with Daniel Brown when he wrote about the "Golden Ratio" that appears in nature everywhere inspires and inflames the hearts and minds of human males when it is observed in the curves of a human female.
Note, however, that there is a difference between being fat with a rear end caused by that alone, and having a coke bottle/pear shape that is caused by having a wide pelvic girdle, a flat stomach, and a narrow waist, as well as having a rounded derriere that juts proudly and sensually out from the side, preferably with a healthy lardosis.
I could go on rhapsodizing, but you get the idea. Jennifer Lopez is popular for many reasons, and all I want to do when I saw Kate Bosworth in "Superman Returns" play Lois Lane (a character who is quite voluptuous in the comics) was to offer her a sandwich, as to me she looked like a little girl playing dress-up in her mommy's grown-up clothes.
Finally, if you remember the "Seinfeld" episode where Kramer inadvertently receives a New York vanity license reading "Assman" (which apparently is based on a real incident in either Jerry's or Larry David's life), I cannot remember being more insulted for being an "ass man" myself than when Kramer brings a woman to Jerry's apartment whom he had attracted by virtue of the license.
That particular actress was merely big all over, with quite a generous bosom and no discernible waist, but with a bottom that to my eye was small to the point of being flat. I inferred from this that they meant it to be comical that any man could enjoy a woman with a round fundament, and that all we look for is an obese woman.
The author Debbie Dickerson seems to fall into this misguided category, as do most mainstream Americans.
Au contraire, mon ami, au contraire.
coming from Kitchengirl, and I happen to agree with her about feeling vastly better or worse depending on what I've eaten, but her attempt at a solution--"don't gain [excess weight] in the first place"--does absolutely nothing to help people who are already overweight.
See--it's easy to make the facile remarks, not that easy to come up with a real, applicable solution, is it? I realize I probably wouldn't be that great at it either (which is why I didn't become a nutritionist), but geez.
I don't know why people keep repeating the nonsense about Marilyn Monroe's wearing a dress size 16. At her heaviest (when pregnant and filming "Some Like it Hot") she weighed 140 pounds. She mostly hovered around 120 (she was 117 when she died) so her BMI was in fact, for the most part, around 20. Dress sizes have changed a great deal over the years. From what I've read, she'd wear an 8 in today's sizes.
She probably wouldn't get very far as a super model these days, but the notion that she'd be considered tubby by anyone not in the fashion industry is ludicrous
...although I have a B.S. in dietetics. I know how hard it is to change attitudes about food, and to help people make better food choices. It's a subject that we can all get incredibly defensive about.
I really wish that basic nutrition education was mandatory in schools, and I wish that nutrition/meal planning/grocery shopping classes were part of the food stamp program. Everyone should know how to read a nutrition label, and everyone should know how to get the most nutritious food for the lowest price.
But again, all of this costs money. It's a matter of priorities, and I'm not sure what it will take to make it a priority.
As a black woman myself, I have to say that I too, have been blessed with a large behind. I work out three times a week and am on a balanced vegan diet. Let me tell you all that after three years of living this way (and a total weight loss of about 80 pounds) my ass isn't going ANYWHERE. While I don't resent the points regarding health being presented in this piece, I am a bit pissed off about the generalizations Ms. Dickerson proceeds to slap on my people. First of all, we sisters are in fact working out (pricey hairdos and all) regularly and to chime in on breaking the myth about black men being into fat women I will boldy say that fat women of color are invisible in the black and brown communities. Like their white counterparts, black men appreciate thick, healthy and FIT bodies; bodies that look like Buffie (who is in no way fat, not even from the back angle). Yes, we have to address the weight problem in the black community, but internalized racism, bullying, and just plain meanness is not going to help anyone. I mean, really, has it ever? I'm talking to YOU Debra!
I never eat fast food! You are so gross for ingesting it!
I am, I really am. It's disgusting, it's doing terrible things to my body and to the environment.
No wonder you’re still fat. You’ll never loose that last 5 lbs ingesting that crap even occasionally. And let’s face it – you should probably loose 10.
Tried that. I bottmed out at 116 (as an adult that is, obviously I weighed less than that growing up!), but I started looking like one of those lollipop girls. Between 122 and 126 is a good weight for me, given my height and the breadth of my shoulders.
You must have no self control. I’ll bet you’re lazy too. Maybe a stair master and some therapy would help you. Even at my fattest I was skinner then you are now!
I have moderate self-control, I am extremely lazy, and I probably could benefit from therapy although not for weight-related issues.
That feel nice? I’ll bet not.
I'm kind of indifferent, actually. Most of what you said was true!
So how come you dish it out like that to other people? You think you are the only one on the planet with feelings and hardship and a million things going on?
What did I dish out? I asked if people really didn't (or couldn't) feel the difference in how their bodies functioned (or ceased to function) after eating different types of food. The natural follow-up question to that would be, does that suggest anything about what your body needs to be healthy and vital, versus what is slowly poisoning it?
You do come off as smug and it’s wildly unattractive no matter how great you look on the outside.
Hee! I didn't say I looked great, I said I'd lost 20 pounds.
Cheers.
Right back at ya!
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