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• Thursday, June 7, 2007 07:49 AM

  Good Lord

  I realize everyone is entitled to their opinion, but Debra, perhaps it is time to stop focusing on other people and start focusing on yourself.

  I've never understood it when people show such scorn about another persons habits. Buffie's body does not affect you. What Buffie looks like does not impact your life. That men are attracted to her is their business and not yours. There are myriad shapes and sizes and personalities and certainly an equal number people to be attracted to them.

  If, perhaps, you are upset that men are more attracted to women like Buffie and not to yourself, look inward. Looks will only get someone so far in a relationship, but eventually personality will take over. I would venture to guess that whatever personality traits drive you to harangue your coworkers about their lunch choices, again, choices that do not impact you and are none of your business, might also be responsible for driving prospective suitors away. It's just a thought.

  And finally, I'm tired of people's propensity to focus on the 'singular cause'. There are so many factors that go into heart disease or cancer or diabetes or any other physical ailment. My father is 6'2" and approx 170 pounds. He is fit, athletic and active, he also has dangerously high cholesterol that he must manage regularly. On the other hand, I, his adopted daughter, am short, overweight and not nearly as active as I should be. My initial cholesterol tests came back so low and healthy that the doctor had them re-done as she suspected a mix up in the lab. No mix up. My cholesterol is clear, my heart is strong and healthy and I show no signs of any of the other ailments that people like to connect with fattiness.

  There is no cure all, there is no one single factor. Unless you are aware of every single factor and unless the situation affects you in some way that you can't control, take the focus away from them and move it back on yourself.

  —Strawberry Read Strawberry's other letters
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