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• Friday, June 8, 2007 08:24 AM

  Okay, Jeanette D., so what do you propose to do about it

  ..besides carping about people being in denial?

  I myself see it less as denial than defensiveness, against shrill voices that are just going on, filled with negativity and shaming tactics.

  I'm not a proponent of either denial or defensiveness, and I have given a lot of thought over the past few days to the irony of the situation: overweight people scrambling to prove they're healthy (which may or may not be the case--there's a huge dif. between 20 and 70-plus pounds overweight), but also how many unproductive and even malicious people are out there making these dire and judgmental comments, basically because they have nothing better to do--and nothing specifically helpful to say. I've decided to shut them out and get on with my exercise goals and preparing better food plans. In other words, I'm not that far from my ideal weight anyway, and I think I'll do what I have to do and get on with my goals DESPITE all the shit I'm reading on here...but I understand a lot of people giving up in frustration.

  But I can give you one more chance, Jeanette and people like you, to see if you actually have some real solutions that will not bring out resentfulness, shame or any other unhelpful response....if your answer is, "I don't care about people's feelings, they need to just do whatever I deem is correct," you're just showing it's all some weird ego thing with you. Which I suspect is the case with a lot of people posting on here.

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