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Thank you for your candor, David.
That's perfectly understandable and it reflects the sort of difference in world view (ideological, you called it?) between us.
I, too, have had the same reaction to Kate in reading her posts. I don't trust her and I'm very much put off by her.
This is precisely why I'm trying to engage her. I'm trying to make an effort to find some common ground even with someone I mistrust. I'm trying to find some sort of commonality, some basis by which we can develop a mutual trust.
I fervently believe that we sink or swim together (the "collectivist" in me), and to that end, we have to figure out a way to create bonds even with--especially with--the most unlikely of candidates.
So for personal reasons, I feel compelled to make an honest effort to find the commonality that can be the basis of mutual respect, if nothing else.
I'm trying to see Kate as a human being.
I appreciate others don't share this orientation, but all I was asking of Tom was that he step back so as not to bait Kate in this particular time and place. No more, no less.
I guess I just wouldn't call that "shutting up Tom," any more than I'd call it shutting someone up to ask them not to interrupt a conversation.
Anyway, thank you, David, for responding. I think I'm starting to get you, which is a good thing, no?