Men are just as sex starved too and suffer from the same banalities as the women. Marriage is hell.

Perhaps it's because I'm male but from my married male friends I hear about wives withholding sex for years.

And as a single man with a lot of women friends I notice that once a woman friend marries, she won't share this kind of info anymore. Women love the idea of modern platonic friendships with men but once they marry, they put you into a box with their husbands and all other men. I'm one of "them" after all.

This is an article in Salon.

No one cares or is allowed to present a story from a heterosexual male perspective, per the editor's directive.

I can think of many reasons.

1. Fifty years of women bashing men over the head. This led to many men backing out of romantic interests altogether. Passivity is the role for men, lest they be labeled stalkers or leches, or inversely, the real players, the successful users, become very assertive and scare off the true romantics by breaking them. Women busting men for being men also led to many men questioning a lot of things including, is it even WORTH IT to put up with the shit and for WHAT? Romance and life with women is a lot more complex today, with men walking around on eggshells. Men feel driven by extraordinary and inscrutible demands, demands driven by the Napoleon of the house, the wife. This destroys a man's desire, it destroys his soul. You women do this to us. SO, a lot of men get the milk if they can and leave the cow behind. Men who absoluely feel they MUST have kids and to belong in a traditional arrangement seem to willfully deceive themselves that it is only the OTHERS who are trapped in bad marriages, that somehow they will beat the odds.

2. Seriously unbalanced expectations. Men only want someone to be kind to them, and someone to trust (traits which feminism has engineered to be a remarkable and complete failure within women). Food, fucking, and being left in peace is what men want. With kids around, a remarkable number of men want to play and nurture and love and belong to a family (HA! good luck with that one when the divorce rate is 70%). On the OTHER hand, 67% of women today expect and want to marry into wealth. Women also read entirely too many romance novels, which are unrealistic joke books. Women's entirely overblown sense of entitlement (another unmitigated disaster of feminism) gets them to believe that they are also entitled to dream about Mr. PERFECT and to ALSO GET HIM. Which leads to extraordinary disappointment when women do not automatically get this in their lives. Ironically, instead of settling for Mr. Right Enough, women often prefer to bed hot losers who, at least for one night, these women can IMAGINE is their dream husband. SO, score another point for the cow milkers, another blow against domestic bliss.

3. Strange beliefs about marriage, and raising kids. Too many cooks in the kitchen in the form of commercial interests. Women are the ULTIMATE TRAITORS. Instead of believing in the sanctity of their man, in his ultimae desire to RIGHT the world, his world, weomen freely and amply gravitate to general society. In the US, this means women adopting all manner of strange beliefs and internalizng them, beliefs that are based NOT in what is good for the family, but what makes more money for corporations. Husbands are the last to know, the so calld dinosaurs, who must be pummeled and put down because, well, it is they who hae a penis, that organ of oppression. Strange, how readily women seem to desire to destroy that which is their arrow in life. Instead, like flagella, women seem to go around in weird neurotic circles, ever spouting commands to the husband. Like men need this shit. the king was supposed to be destroyed is what all women will tell you. Only women are entitled to be treated like divine beings. Men being base and evil. So be it. The result of these beliefs is called modern society.

4. By extenson of #3, most people are IMBECILES. Most Americans suspect something is not right. Like cows, they raise their heads, slowly chewing their cud, and look around, not quite being sure what it is that is unsettling them. A FEW people have adopted strategies to cope with this unprecedented assault on the human condition. They do not trust commercial processed 'foods' (I dread to even call this micronutrient free crap food), they question conventional wisdom, they homeschool their kids, they forgo teevee, with its endless mind control programming. Those who have wisened up realize they enjoy days, weeks and years of joyful living. Depression free, anxiety free, pressure free, these people begin to realize that life is one big connected whole, one that they are a pat of, a BIG part. There is a continuity, a flow to life. The rest of the people, the cows, well, they will get what is coming to them. Endless disease, depression, destruction.

So, men have given up for many reasons. Women suffer for it. We men can get our asses up and wrangle up some 'romance' if only for an evening if we so desire. Not so easy for you women, is it?

what's the deal about Western men and Asian women?

women want to be the women and the men. there is no room for a male to have a voice or any power. so be it.

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Eleven years married, once kid and another on the way, I can't say it's been easy. But neither is life. Our marriage has had joyous moments of unforgettable ecstasy and a few horrible (and thankfully short-lived) times of fear and despair, but for the most part it's been someone to share the daily minutia of life with with, a hand to hold, and a warm body to snuggle with on cold nights, a partner to share the house and kid chores with. My grandmother, married 60 years, told me when shortly before my wedding not to expect marriage to make you happy every minute, because nothing can do that. Good advice, I'd say. And even reflecting on it's crappiest moments, I wouldn't trade it for the the life of my single girlfriends.