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The world we live in rewards people unequally and arbitrarily. If you are going to be in a long relationship that goes through several economic cycles, then you have to get rid of all ideas about who earns the bread and just be glad that someone does. I am a woman and I earn the money in our relationship. I also do all the cooking. But my partner is wonderfully helpful and does all the errands and the schlepping and also keeps the household running. I am incredibly grateful for him and his efforts and his happy attitude. He reciprocates. And the kids know both of us quite well, since we are around and we are both always on duty. We are lucky. BUT both of you really have to get rid of your preconceived notions about who earns the money. Our relationship is way better than those I know where the man brings home a big paycheck and expects a high level of service from his well-educated wife.
