Letters to the Editor
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Ménage à trois?
Love the illustration. The bottom two feet don't match. Looks like there's three bedded down.
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regardign geneticists
they inevitably think you're a pervert, or you must really dig sex. Whereas if you're a geneticist, people don't think: "Oh, you must really dig genes!"
Actually, I would think that geneticists dig genes. Why else would you do it?
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To Abbywood:
But if you're a woman, good luck trying to get a guy to talk to you in bed.
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Thank GOD for vibrators.
You mean your vibrator talks to you in bed? I think your problem isn't what you think it is.
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Its the feet
I guess the only ting I learned from this article is there is something very wrong with those feet in the illustration. Or is this a this three some?
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"Lesbian" porn
Let's get this right, folks. The vast majority of so-called "lesbian" porn has absolutely nothing to do with lesbian sex. That's not how lesbians have sex, and it's not the kind of thing that turns lesbians on. The "L-Word" (despite its MANY problems) has a much more realistic portrayal of lesbian sexuality and how they get it on.
Standard "lesbian" porn should really be called "straight male" porn. It's completely about catering to the straight man. So it's not a "glitch" that straight men found porn with only women in it to be arousing. Btw, I have no evidence for this, but my guess is that straight men don't find the "L-Word" hot (much as they would like to).
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Some of these letters make me...melancholy
I've always had great sexual relationships with the women I was with. Whenever these types of articles are published by Salon a lot of bitter letters show up.
AbbyBWood: I talk a blue streak and I have lot's to say, too.
A lot of people seemed unfulfilled to me...
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Self-Exploration Is the Key
Women are often too afraid or too embarrassed to discuss their sexual needs with their mate or their physician. This is the reason medical science and a lot of unsuspecting men know so little about the female orgasm.
The average male can achieve climax in as little as two minutes—the average female needs a minimum of fifteen minutes to get the same results. And while men usually need a resting period between orgasms, some women are capable of multi-orgasms without any down time. (No pun intended). According to Wikipedia, “33% of women report never or seldom achieving orgasm during intercourse and only 10% always orgasm.” Medical journals customarily attribute sexual dysfunction in men to physical factors, yet sexual dysfunction in women is widely accepted to be psychological in nature—an unfair assumption based on the limited scientific information available regarding the female orgasm.
My own sexual experiences lead me to conclude that the female body is unlimited in its ability to receive pleasure. I suspect that there are numerous female orgasmic points—each producing its own distinct sensation—whose existence would benefit from further research and exposure. I have personally experienced vaginal orgasms due to both direct stimulation of the vaginal walls and the urban legend called the G spot.It’s called the G spot because most men need a “guided” missile device attached to their penises to successfully navigate a landing to this un-chartered frontier for many women. Certain sexual positions may guarantee this marksman a better chance of triumph than others. (Too bad gynecologists can’t map out the coordinates as part of our yearly physical exams.) My suggestion is self-exploration. If you can find it on your own, you will learn quickly how to direct your man to what will soon become your favorite spot on the planet. Also, if your marksman is shooting with a 22 and he really needs a 45, this will affect your ability to get a G spot orgasm. Think of those pesky theme park signs that read “must be this tall to ride.” In that same way, penis size matters. If research says otherwise, let me assure you, it is probably flawed.
The walls of the inside of the vagina can also produce orgasm. The regular thrusting motion of the penis or a circular motion with a thumb can accomplish this, so can a very moist tongue. Rhythm should be taken into consideration—fast, slow or tantric. Again, you have to know your own body. This is where many women fall short. It’s unfair to your lover to rely solely on his previous sexual experiences as a guideline to pleasing you.
The penis and the clitoris develop from the same embryonic structure. Stimulation of the clitoris is believed to produce more orgasms in females than penile penetration. I’m prone to agree with this assertion for the obvious reason—it’s easier to reach a target you can see. I never achieved orgasm through most of my college years—clitoral or vaginal. My lovers always seemed happy to place the blame on me. I never faked orgasm, in hopes of getting information about what I was doing wrong. But it was unfair to expect the men I dated in college to tell me about my own body. In the end, no one was deficient. We were all sexually uninformed at that stage in our lives. Upon experiencing my first orgasm, I started to take notes, and I’m now fully able to communicate my sexual needs to any man and get an orgasm every time.
Using prescription drugs should be a last resort. Treat yourself to a few sexual toys and spend time exploring your body. Try different things. The path to orgasm is paved with trial an error. Keep a journal and write down your likes and dislikes. It is also important to be comfortable having candid conversations about sex with your mate.
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sex and science
Is the Marie Bonaparte mentioned the psychoanalyst, friend and student of the Freuds, who used her considerable influence to help Freud escape the Nazis in 1938? She was also the mother of HRH Prince Peter of Greece, who as a social anthropologist studied Tibetan polyandry for his doctorate at the London School of Economics......
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Why "Bonk"?
Shouldn't it be "boink"? Boink is unambiguous - basically means fucking and nothing else. When I hear "bonk" I think of Fred Flintsone getting hit in the head, not sexytimes. I think the whole book should be pulped until this glaring error is corrected.