Letters to the Editor
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Huh?
And so, from the very comfortable distance of not being married to the guy, we've quickly merged our own experience with that of Silda Wall Spitzer, whose reactions to this story we cannot, of course, even begin to guess at.
Oh, I think we can all certainly make a good guess at them indeed.
Why is she there, who knows. Spitzer's Poppy has got some pretty big money you know. A bona fida billionaire. Maybe they made a deal.
It'll be interesting to see if she's still with him this time next year.
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Clinton
To me, it was clear why Hillary Clinton didn't leave Bill after the impeachment scandal--she didn't want to give their enemies the satisfaction. In the case of the Clintons, and not the Spitzers, there were malevolent forces out to destroy the husband, the wife and the marriage.
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true.
me, it was clear why Hillary Clinton didn't leave Bill after the impeachment scandal--she didn't want to give their enemies the satisfaction. In the case of the Clintons, and not the Spitzers, there were malevolent forces out to destroy the husband, the wife and the marriage.
true, plus, embarassing as Monica is, at least it was an affair with someone who clearly wanted to have it and in her own naive, trashy way, she was kind of charming. Not quite the same as finding out your spouse is hanging out on dirtbag websites shelling out 2.5 kilobucks for a couple of hours with a quasi-scank.
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Not All Of Us Care
I'm not a big fan of Eliot Spitzer - - isn't he, after all, the zealot who tried to save the world from Martha Stewart? I do ache for Silda, whose pain has been pretty obvious during her husband's recent press conferences. However, I can't understand anyone who would presume to pass judgment on her personal decisions or to lecture her on how she should deal with this crisis. This is the Spitzers' problem, and it is no one else's business. Honestly, people, grow up and learn how to mind your own affairs. And if you can't do that, then go turn on your television sets and entertain yourselves with some trashy reality program populated by publicity-seeking sociopaths who actually want your attention.
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Why? Here is a theory
Like many long married couples, Mr. and Mrs. Spitzer haven't had a sex life together for many years, but life has its compensations and Mrs. Spitzer knows full well that she and her children will always be well provided for and that she will never have to work for a living, or even do housework.
Her hubby's proclivities are well known to her and she doesn't really care as long as he does not pester her.
So she goes along with the program and does what is asked. The PR advisor thinks it is best she appears with him so that at least the world can see that she does not have a black eye.
In the footsteps of Hillary she can always say "Like most married couples, we have had our problems, but we talk them through and come out the stronger. Come and see me at my new beach house some time."
Is this theory right? I have no idea, but it is probably closer to the truth than half of the absurd speculation flying around which is based mainly on the fact that many Salon readers are divorced women whose husbands "cheated" and who find in Mrs. Spitzer a character in the soap opera of life with whom they feel they can identify.
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gosh, I always figured these wives stood by their husbands because it was the "right thing to do" ...
... sickness and health, richer / poorer ... and because you've been married for X numbers of years, and there are the children (of whatever age) and your parents and his parents and because he wants you there (as, of course, likely does his lawyer for "appearances") ... because there's plenty to be said in private in due time, over time, but RIGHT NOW, better a stoic, supportive public face as he is also going through he ritualized motions of DOING THE RIGHT THING -- anything else is throwing raw meat to the jackels, throwing gasoline on the embers ...
what's the mystery?
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Wacky thought:
Maybe she loves the guy despite it all and wanted to be there. But where there are women writers needing to point fingers and judge, I guess it can't be. Walk a mile in someone's shoes? For suckers and bleeding hearts only.
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Mother's Little Helper
The only thing I thought of when I saw that clip: Valium.
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Ha! I'm never shocked
I'm never shocked when I learn that a politician has done something seedy. I AM shocked that people like Clinton and Spitzer make it so EASY for others to catch them and take them down. It's not that I think liberals are less prone to sins of the flesh, it's just that I always believe that they're going to be smarter about indulging, since they realize that so many people are out to get them.
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Why don't the women say anything?
I don't think this is much of a deal. I don't know why women have to feel threatened when another woman does something arguably generous. It seems many do. At any rate, despite my feeling that there is too much second-guessing of what people do at a moment when they are feeling especially robotic, I have to ask why the women in these iconic settings never say anything. Or, actually, I guess Vitter's wife spoke. Good for her. And, Hillary never did the precisely iconic scene. She did nothing after Monica except get snapped walking with him to the helicopter. In 1992, she did a sit down interview on 60 minutes, and spoke. Ms. Wall Spitzer is a lawyer, so it is odd to simply stand there and play the potted plant. Hard to figure.
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Yes, we will never know
Rebecca writes:
It seems pretty clear that some people -- many people, if the amount of coverage this angle of the story has received –- are taking this very personally, projecting on Silda Wall Spitzer a reflection of their own experiences, fears and concerns.
Yes, this sums it up. Personally, I really don't think about it, and it's absolutely none of our business. I'm shocked and appalled that so many feminists discuss this, as if they know the dynamics of THEIR marriage, while also simultaneously accusing Spitzer of sexual slavery and human trafficking. Give me a break! And start living in the real world: some prostitutes choose to do this work; and, some wives choose to stand by their man. No harm there.