Letters to the Editor
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Exercise-ugh-eat right- wear sunscreen
and use the word "wackadoo" a lot. Because as you get older -if you're lucky enough to get older- life will seem really wackadoo frequently. People get sick, grow up, move away, change- die. And all of it will seem more real with each passing year. Approach your life with a good sense of humor. Cheers to Mary Elizabeth for reminding me how much I love the word "wackadoo" and how wonderful and wackadoo life really is.
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Oh, Mary Beth
I know what you mean. I'm 42 and it shows. But in the end, I'd rather spend my money on fabulous clothes -- because it's taken me this long to understand my style -- and really GOOD books.
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tinted moisturizer
is a great product.
not a pancake covering like foundation, has a little sunscreen, and it's good for your skin.
It's nice. Highly advised. Of course quality differs. I like Merle Norman's.
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Where do you shop?
I get the cosmetic stuff and the hair-care/color and frankly I look damn good for 42 and on a good day pass for 32 (and laughed when I got carded at the liquor store last week).
But, where do you shop? I am not ready for Talbots, Gap works for the jeans/tanks/t-shirts, and I coble things together from a variety of stores- but there are no chain stores that cater to the over 40, still a size 6-8, not stodgy, but definitely waaaayyy to old for Charlotte Russe/Urban Outfitters/Wet Seal/the Limited/Banana Republic.
Just curious ladies, suggestions?
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Where to shop?
Well, I'm 47, and I like the stuff from Coldwater Creek (or is it Canyon?)--but I have to wait till the stuff I like hits the Outlet. Too pricey for me at the regular price, but then I'm cheap.
Anyway, I have a question about the advice in this book. I read her tips in another magazine (Oprah?) at the drs. office, and the one thing that stood out for me was that women shouldn't wear "nude" colored pantyhose. Supposedly, it's terribly aging. Why? Am I really supposed to go bare-legged to work? I have no intention of following this advice, since I think I really look much better in hose, but I was wondering if anyone else has come across this "advice," and what the rationale is.
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There's No Bigger Waste of Time .....
Than vanity .......
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eileen fisher is just the ticket
I'm 58 but I've been buying Eileen Fisher since I was 40. Her fabrics are incredible, the clothes are easy to put on, look elegant and are comfortable as long as you get the right size (duh). Though they are unstructured, the fabric generally flows to flatter any body style without clinging to those funny rolls that came from outta nowhere (hey, I ran marathons!). She also maintains dye lots across the years, so it's easy to match outfits as you pick up pieces (oh, yeah, the clothes are well-made and last forever). Sure, she has some duds: I've bought some merino sweaters that pilled up immediately and those georgette pants show every pit and valley in my cellulite. Her retail prices seldom go over $400, with most of her stuff in the $150-250 range. Buy them on sale(Dillards knocks off 40 percent pretty quickly, then another 30 percent off at seasons' end). I can't wear blazers any more (funny how I'm looking more and more like my husband), so Eileen's stuff is perfect -- professional looking but comfy, with soft necks that flip up in back. So, yeah: Don't snark Eileen till you've tried her.
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Checked out the Eileen Fisher
Wow. I must be the poorest Salon reader. Nothing there within spitting distance of my price range. But it does look like the kind of clothing that you can buy because it looks good on you, not because it's what the fashion mags tell you to get.
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VANITY, VANITY, ALL IS VANITY
That's one of the saddest commentaries I've read in a long time and exemplifies to a T the superficial consciousness of the American woman. It's all about looks rather than substance, glamour rather than wisdom, about deceiving and hoodwinking both oneself and "the other," about ego, vanity and pride that veils and hides the truth behind the fog and mist of affectation and pretensions. It's all about denial and the fear of death that we run from and the ignorance of not knowing that there is no death but rather entrance into a fuller life. Pain and sorrow, loss and disaster, sagging skin and breasts, loss of eros, are only so because both man and woman identify with form rather than mind and soul, but as soon as we identify with soul and not with the deteriorating form, we begin to understand the meaning of the Law of Sacrifice, then we can with deliberate intent accept, and even choose, to leave our old bodies behind...
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Decay on the Mortal Coil
As much as some women would like to hate mavens like Charla Krup, let's face it; no one likes looking old. Mature, yes. Old, no. I've seen women who seemed to regard the passage of 40 years as an opportunity to climb into that maroon velour track suit with the elastic waist and never look back (mostly because they can barely turn their neck). I've seen other women decades older who look engaged and vital. Some of it is genetics, but some of it is accepting that a high quality of life demands a certain level of commitment.
It's the same way for men; Looking at a recent college reunion photo, I was confronted with Burl Ives (had no idea he was a classmate) and realized with horror that Burl was me...Funnily enough, people (especially younger adults) seem to have decided that I look 40 rather than pushing 50. It's not because I look especially young, it's because I can talk to people from any age group and I'm interested in people of all ages. I seem young (or more to the point, ageless). I don't look young.
If you want to see the effects of attitude and the company you keep, take a look at former White House Press Secretary Scott McClellan, and remember, he's barely 40....
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Lolly where have you been
Yes Lolly I am afraid "flesh colored" hose have been "out" since as far as I know, 1994. Probably earlier. Yes you are expected to go bare legged to work. That's why I wear pants instead of a skirt. I hated it too but I couldn't fight it. The dictum against "flesh-colored hose" is too great. You can wear white ones or black ones or fishnet just not flesh colored. I have seen a couple of women last summer in flesh-colored hose so maybe they are on the verge of a comeback.
As for where to shop, I personally like Orvis, but maybe that skews a little old. I don't feel it skews as old as Coldwater Creek.