Letters to the Editor
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@LeCastor
Thanks for the link to the Times Online article about women who don't love/want their children. Very interesting.
However, I don't know that I would call them the Silent Minority as the author chooses to do. The fact is that each and every one of the women in the article had a significant mental health issue, depression, sense of isolation, abandonment. However, they raged at their children for robbing them of something crucial. I'd strongly suggest that something was very wrong before the children entered the picture. The logic these women used to blame their children for problems in their own lives was staggeringly flawed.
It's important to note though that each of these wome suffered enormously from their distanced behavior as have their children. Furthermore, therapeutic treatment for this disordered behavior is predicated on an underlying fact: Parenting is not about you, it is about the child. Basically, even if it's tough, once you are a parent you've got to focus on what's best for the child instead of what's best for you.