Letters to the Editor
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Jessica,
I did not read the 'comments' but I sure felt a beautiful Spirit behind your article.
I'll opine, 'I believe you did what was best...A Lady I loved, as if she was in a trance before she 'slept' as in died, told me things that guide me each day now...
I don't speak those 'precious words' spoken to me in private in the public arena...but the words to me were Life and Hope.
I believe people such as you, Love...therefore, are guided in the right decisions, steps by step, and make the best decisions in those hard Life choice circumstances. I hope you do not choose to harbor a dehabilitating illogical, or false imposed "guilt"...
Rest, and trust knowing there are no-mistakes if the heart is in the right place...I can't prove this.
Of course, we are all human and fallible...
O, just keep up that good 'ole fashion lovin'
You touched me's old heart.
The ole' Southern Bella saith,
Bless your Life and dear Heart.
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I was in India doing earth-quake relief in 1993 for a month. The humanitarian group was called, Ananda Marga. I spent 10-days in Calcutta, post-burial (18,000 estimated dead) with a wonderful motley group of chanters, minstrels, and drum bangers. The cymbals, flutes, tambourines, and so much more...were from the spirtual aspirants in a devotion attitude toward Nature.
The victims who died when gravity lain home-rock wall swayed and crushed them in their sleep at 4:00 AM, were mostly rural farmers in the state of Central Maharashtra, India.
The host, Amanda Marga, have a beautiful, interesting, and education philosophy with the Anacronymn (sp) PROUT. Google?
Once in awhile a monk rolls into my town to say hello. Maybe you can check out Ananda Marga's web site? Ananda Marga means Path of Bliss. I sometimes go to visit the web-site but, I don't endorse any one-anything-group...It will not hurt. The photos are beautiful.
There is a interesting landscape economy-writer who, I think, has been 'touched' by the humanitarian PROUT philosophy. He is a garden-landscaper and writes frequently about financial global matters.
What a personal story we all could tell in a safe and trusting private setting. The fall season that I was in India was when the gold mustard, marigold, and sunflowers were in bloom. It was after the terrible and sad burial was completed that a dimension of the beautiful came more alive. It's to difficult to describe but, a powerful sense of The Beautiful unfolded as in manifestation, and without my mustering a concocted effort.
Irony. The more I pledge to be quiet...I also must speak. Thanks for the article.
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Guatemala adoptions - Mayan Families
Before people get too swept up in the frenzy of Guatemala adoption bashing (or adoptive parent bashing), please check out the Mayan Families website (http://mayanfamilies.org/). It's a small, much-respected charity run by an adoptive family living in Guatemala in a community of indigenous people. Please read the backgrounds of the children who need sponsorships to attend school, and maybe it will help provide a better idea of the situation in Guatemala. I have great respect for the family who runs this charity - they are fully in support of adoption (even by the dreaded "rich white couple!"), and I highly trust the opinion of anyone who is as closely involved with Guatemalan daily life as they are.
Students needing sponsorship:
http://mayanfamilies.org/SCHOOL%20AND%20STUDENT%20SPONSORSHIP.htm
AncientAssyrian - You rock!
-anon adoptive mom
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My bad
You are a fucking genius and professional journalists are all third rate.
In fact any newspaper south of the Mason Dixon is third rate. Thanks for clearing that up. While you're at it. Could you please take time out of curing cancer and mathematically proving the existence of god to save all the babies too?
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I would have made the same choice,
As awful as it feels to say that - I would have done the same.
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okay.
I started to read gloriousgirl. I stopped. Why some 'folk' need to hurt...It's a mystery. gloriousgirl tried to 'hit' me on Glenn's UT site...
I'll not read any more 'letters'...
I stand by what I thought that proceeded from my heart's emotion.
Best to you.
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@Laurel962 - Goodness but you love to stereotype
Most of the people who have adopted are Boomers or Gen-Xers -- they don't fear massive amounts of paperwork, they THIVE on it. These are the folks with 3 Master's Degrees (cuz they couldn't make up their minds what yuppie profession they wanted to work at, all while postponing having children until it was physically impossible). People like that find great satisfaction in filling out hundreds of pages of notarized documents (just like grad school!) and think of it as catharctic and also I have heard adoptive parents compare PAPERWORK to LABOR IN CHILDBIRTH, and feel a sense of great justification about having done it.
You would never make generalizations based on stereotypes like this about gender or race. But I guess since it's about "yuppies" it's OK? You've reduced thinking, feeling people to caricatures that somehow make you feel superior.
Your letter, and especially the above paragraph, is the dumbest thing I've read in a long time.
You're a moron.
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Romancing babies...
One can hardly blame the author for having such a romantic view of parenthood, when our culture is completely saturated with images that romanticize babies and parenting. Especially mothering.
I don't know about the Angelina adoption syndrome, but it does seem that celebrities are having babies left and right, and that there is something of an "accessory" aspect to the whole thing. Not that the arents feel that way about their children, but that the whole experience is spun that way in the media. That it's trendy to have a baby.
And yet, it's also romantic. The beautiful pictures of adorable babies in lovely clothes, bathed in soft sunlight, surrounded by picture-perfect parents. It's quite a seductive landscape. Add a few hormones, and some difficulty conceiving and/or carrying to term, and it's bound to create an intense longing.
Still, the author wrote with an awareness of her own tendency to romanticize. We really can't expect much more honesty than for someone to speak of their own blind spots, or filters, or biases. She did that. And-- she explained why she decided against adoption and tried IVF.
I'm always amazed when commenters here feel at liberty to judge someone else's human feelings. Not just their behavior, but their actual feelings.