Letters to the Editor
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Misogamy Run Amok
Good grief - the level of scorn and hatred towards fathers and husbands in this letter thread is appalling...
"...psychologically and financially autonomous"
I'm guessing you've never been in a healthy, long-term relationship with a man, huh? Because one of the initially scariest - yet ultimately most fulfilling - aspects of long-term commitment is TRUST. Insecurities about "autonomy" have a lot more to with your own state of mind than with deadbeat boyfriends/fiances/husbands.
Both parties in a romantic relationship, regardless of their gender, enter into an unspoken compact that in some way they effect on each other's lives (not that I didn't use the word "dependence"; if it is true autonomy you crave, then there's probably a hermit hut up in the hills with your name on it.
As for the father bashing...almost every father I know around my age (late 20s-late 30s) takes the time and effort to be present in their children's lives, help out their wives as much as they can and balance their work schedules around time invested with their families. Is it easy? Hell no. But by and large, they don't complain. They just do their best to be nurturing and co-supportive parents.
In short, they deserve much better than to be vilified in the way you knee-jerk reflexive "All Dads R DeadBeat", psuedo-feminist letter writers have been doing.