Letters to the Editor
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No one has to break the bank for a wedding.
To me, the most feminist, anti-capitalist act a person can commit upon marriage is to refuse to go into debt just to look like an expensive token for a day. What a waste of resources and money just to put on a big show that has nothing to do with marriage or family.
When I married 7 years ago, I spent about five hundred dollars total, includes the price of our honeymoon dinner and tickets to a movie afterward. I bought my dress second-hand and my husband already had a suit. We were married by a justice of the peace, at my grandmothers condominium, in front of about 12 people and had a reception on premises afterward. I am happy I did it that way, and happier still that we didn't have any big loans to pay off afterward. I still don't see the appeal of borrowing money one doesn't have just to appear to have money in front of friends who have to also borrow money to appear that they too are well-off. Why is it so important to appear well-off? Should I worry that people might think we are poor for not having a fancy wedding? We are! Do people look down on poor people? Why? Isn't that the bigger problem here? Whatever happened to America the land of unpretentious equal opportunity?