....that's all. Just ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww.....

what a daft excuse for a man.

I understand he had an asshole transplant last year - but the asshole rejected him.

i vomit on his "me-ness"

What a twat! Suddenly I don't feel so bad about being single. Blech! I'll take some really good platonic guy friends to have beers with over 'committment' to that any day of the week.

I don't think that other people think that's what a narcissist is, so that means I'm not a narcissist. What an awful excuse for a man. I am very glad, and proud t live in a society where I had the choice to not turn into a privileged creature so infantile, so obtuse, and so misogynistic as Eric Schaeffer.

I hope to god that this awful person never gets any power in the world. We don’t need any more Eichmanns.

but she hit it out of the park with this hilarious (and yet also deeply creepy) repartee. It kind of reminds me of the kid who has a problem but is such a dick nobody is getting anywhere near helping him.

I kept laughing and laughing all the while I was reading this article, convinced that "Eric Schaeffer" was some kind of put-on, a meta-troll if you will, designed to get a rise out of all of us and leave us going "bzuh?"

If Schaeffer is for real, it's even funnier. I'm a rather eccentric person, with what many would think are some far-out spiritual beliefs, but next to Schaeffer I'm Little Miss Boringly Normal. For one thing, I've never been pissed on - just pissed off. Haha.

I can think of approximately two dozen worthy interview subjects off the top of my head that didn't get any press because you spent your energy and life force and precious time interacting with this... person.

I need a shower.

So... his perfect woman is a MTF pre-op dominatrix with submissive tendencies who's willing to fuck on the first date but is traditional enough to settle down with kids in five or six years.

And I'm sure she's out there! The question is whether she'd ever give him the time of day.

This guy cracked me up.

He said, I think, "Men don't commit on their own; women force them to commit."

It's very true.

However, otherwise? Run. Run away, now.

Lisa

http://iknowwhyyourestillsingle.blogspot.com/

There are not enough vowels to describe the disgust I feel when I read about this guy. Are you reading this, Eric? I am a smart, kind, funny, sweet, sexually adventurous and spontaneous 21-year-old woman who wants 3 kids in the next five years --- and I wouldn't touch you with a thousand foot pole. You have no morals and no compassion, and you have serious issues.

Men who visit prostitutes are not cool. They are despicable.

Funny comment and right on, just wanted to point out that a MTF pre-op wouldn't be able to have 3 kids, you know, not having ovaries or a uterus...

Dear Eric,

Stop trying to justify your psychoctic behavior. Dude, you're scary and a bit of a pervert.

Call me.

PattiB

I seriously doubt that any self-respecting NYC woman would let this guy anywhere near her ovaries, but seriously, this guy should not be allowed to propagate his troll genes. Just what the world needs!

However, as a now happily married lady, I can certainly say I met loads of self-obsessed gimps just like him before dating my husband. It seemed like the bigger a loser a guy was, the more convinced he was the there was a supermodel out there waiting for him to pee on her.

Why we the readers should care about somebody like Eric Schaeffer? What small corner of the world does this interview illuminate besides the eerily twisted mind of some New York asshole?

I admit to having read the whole thing, but only because I was kind of in a state of wonder at Why?

Maybe if I had ever lived in New York I would understand. But do most Salon readers live in New York? Do Salon editors suppose that the New York dating scene - all those narcissistic twisted weirdos you you drag out and pick apart brick by brick - is really all that interesting to the rest of us? Dunno, maybe it's just me.

The other comment I'd like to make is: Traister, you're a very sharp interviewer and an engaging writer. A whole lot of talent is going to waste on these ridiculous male vs. female topics you're always going on about. I don't know how great your shoe collection is, but you're way smarter than Carrie Bradshaw. You should get real.

OK, I get the self-absorption.

I get the flamboyance.

I get the extreme unconventionality.

I get the "high-maintenance partner" aspect.

I even get the "possibly annoying person" factor.

I read this article over twice to help ensure I didn't miss anything.

What I didn't get to is "EWWWWW."

What I don't get is the "this is a really bad guy" feeling.

I wouldn't be interested myself, but I don't see why another woman might not be, once she meets him. Depends on what she's all about. Depends on chemistry between people.

IMHO, these kinds of things are inside a lot of people. They just don't talk about them, as the author says. And many such people are not dangerous bad creeps; they're just human and they think and do what people think and do (but don't tell you).

OK, I could be totally wrong and next week maybe we might hear that this guy, I don't know, put "roofies" (or whatever you call them) in some woman's rum-and-coke and raped her behind the potted palm, leaving her bleeding and pregnant and scarred for life (which of course, I definitely feel would be tragic, horrible, and reprehensible). But I don't get that from this article. I get Joe Almost-Normal, maybe weirder than me personally but by no means on the moon or Mars or wherever, who just gives public voice to some matters about which most other people keep silent, except among their close friends.