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Since you're obviously reading the letters here: I've met you, years ago (local media book tour for "Stepping Westward"), and I've always thought of you kindly since, and enjoyed reading you.
I was/am my own mother's heartache, and I now have two little girls who I know will make me worry the rest of my life. There's nothing wrong with them, I'll just always be hovering somewhere in the background, worrying.
I have no better advice for you than the advice you are giving yourself already (not that you're asking--just sayin'). Just know that a former radio producer you met once is sending you good vibes for this difficult situation.