Letters to the Editor
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Passions
Obviously someone that has never ridden a motorcycle let alone one on a track will never experience or know what type of passion it really is.
To take away racing for another passion from one that has been doing it for along time is like taking away heavy metal music and making them listen to elevator music. It will never work.
This woman is so lucky that she had even found someone that will not only take care of her at her age, but also her three kids. You don't see that type of responsibility that often. Especially on how much this guy was devoted to her kids (one being autistic. So to have him even think about giving up his one hobby that gives him that freedom.
Also, for her to just get upset with the jokes and leave like she did instead of voicing her opinion is just cowardace. Jokes are being made about every race out there, unless she actually told them that she was to be offended, then she has no right to be upset!
Kiss your lucky stars that you have him and bring his spirit back by buying him a new bike to take to the track now!!!!
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Compromises can lead to mutual benefit
I think it's sad that you forced him to give up one of his major passions in life, while you yourself didn't give up much at all. He will probably only become resentful over time.
Sure, I sometimes get annoyed when my partner spends hours and hours at band practice and zones into his computer programs...but he tolerates my accordion jams and endless yammering zine obsession so it's okay. We're proud of each other's separate hobbies, and sometimes we collaborate on new projects.
So I suggest you try harder to appreciate the motorcycle world, even if you aren't quite as roughhewn as some of the other biker dames.
Imagine pulling up to one of your book readings in a Harley, or beating some of those spangly halter top ladies in a race. That would be awesome.
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I married a racer
My husbands mom told me straight out one day (about 3 weeks before the wedding) that, “because he loved me so much I could get him to stop racing…but I wouldn’t want to live with him after that”.
Just keep that in mind LW.
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Oh I get it.
She’s not reaching out at all. She’s BRAGGING that she got him to quit racing.
It’s a shout out to the sisterhood “look at what I did. I cut his nuts off WHOOOOO you can do it to sister. Make him prove his love.”
Way to go girl. The only way to max out that safety net for you and the kids is to find a good source of income and keep it safe and producing until you have enough $$$$ to dump his ass and live with the pool boy for the rest of your days.
GIRL POWER!!!!
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A Suggestion
I think it would be interesting if Salon started publishing editorials, personal stories and letters to Cary that didn't identify the gender of the author. Then maybe instead of having dozens of letters about how all women are castrating bitches, people would really try and understand where the author/letter writer is coming from. And not to re-hash old woulnds, but I would certainly bet that Cary Tennis would never have imposed his misogynistic porno fantasies if he didn't know the gender of the letter writer.
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Another one bites the dust.
What did he see in you in the first place?
I thank God for my fiance. She rides bikes with me and understands a racer's life.
Mr. Hearts, if you read this, there are better fish in the pond.
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re-read, just 2 lines
"he pulls up after work and explains that racing is like cocaine. Expensive, destructive, addictive. He wants to quit, to help raise your children, to have a life with you instead."
there are about a cajillion things wrong with this scenario, BUT HE IS THE ONE WHO SAID HE WANTED TO QUIT!!!!!!
jesus christ, a lot of y'all are a bit defensive, huh? maybe thats why you need to ride those bikes. control what you can, i guess.
but at least bitch about the *right* dumb parts of this story.
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boring
"Obviously someone that has never ridden a motorcycle let alone one on a track will never experience or know what type of passion it really is."
I have experienced the same, but then I turned 13 and it started to feel a little childish, juvenile and repetitive.
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Seriously???
You must be kidding right? This so called "Dallas" is my husband....in real life. I know who you are and who you are talking about. **By the way people, real names have been changed to protect people's privacy, and quite cleverly I might add. You must be kidding when you say a "biker gang" is talking about your lovely life. I'm a bit offended by what you wrote...but that was after I laughed so hard I almost cried. I have a very respectable job, so does my husband. We work hard, have a dog, a nice house, a cat, friends, etc. We don't do drugs, don't drink too much, don't do anything out of the ordinary, yet we are a biker gang? Seriously? We are normal group of people who happen to like motorcycles. Look, my husband has had to postpone things for us on many occasions due to track days, races, etc. It makes me so mad...but....I know that this is who he is, and this is what he loves. I would NEVER make him give up something he loves for me. How selfish is that? I know you will most likely read this to your husband and he will know who I am....or maybe you wont because this article makes you look very selfish. (I'm sure you did this behind his back) Why marry him? He had lots of friends and he's given it all up for you, and you dont even know if you are happy with it. He is a great guy, and you are selfish for even feeling this way. I think maybe you should start treating him how he deserves to be treated and let him have some fun in life with his friends he used to have before he met you.