Letters to the Editor
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Let Him Race
You need to let him race. Period. End of Story. I know you do not want to do this. I know this seems antithetical but this is his passion, and removing that from his life removes what you fell in love with. You fell in love with a passionate man who lived for something you were unable to understand. However, it is that very passion I am sure you valued, although you may not realize it. And now it is gone. Embrace what it is you do not understand and you will find the meaning behind it. This is not all about you. It never was.
He was forced to give it all up in an ultimatum to satisfy your "set of hard-won values". What about his "set of hard-won values"? Values are subjective, relative and not always portable. Nor do I think this should mean that he is free to schedule everything around race weekends (which are probably only once every three weeks...), but it should not mean he has to give up this passion completely. He needs to find a new balance, as do you.