I stopped reading halfway through. Tell me the writer works for "True Confessions" or something. 44% of teenage girls have lost their virginity by age 17, so this writer concludes that virginity is dead???? Hon, way more teenage girls have their drivers licenses by age 17 than are non-virgins, but we don't consider women without licenses freaks of nature. Grow up.

...but not exactly ground-breaking news. I guess it's good to know what kind of views are out there but this story doesn't do a lot to refute Lawrence Mitchell's repulsive generalizations. Amanda seems like a bit of a doormat and frankly, the kind of woman he's talking about -- and I know plenty of doormat women who aren't virgins. I lost my virginity at 17 and I used to be exactly like this before I grew some self-confidence, and my hymen or lack thereof had nothing to do with it.

Couldn't they have found a more rousing success story of a woman who found a positive, ongoing relationship with a man after revealing she was a virgin? (I kind of hate to think they really couldn't.)

I have never asked how long ago sence you had sex

if both are willing it's going to happen .First time is usualy

ackward for one or both .The thought of ask how long ago never

cross my mind

I wonder how many of these women were victims of sexual abuse. I'm a 28 female, socially confident and happy, and while not technically a virgin (I was raped at 15 and I've had some bad sex since then...) probably feel just as awkward at those situations. I've learned from bitter experience- never expose anything that makes you seem vulnerable when dating! Right now, I'm working on faking orgasms. That, of course, holds true for men as well...

If I sound bitter, not quite- a lot of it has to do with me, and not men, and I'm still hoping to meet someone special.

Also- what about all the male virgins out there? I'm pretty sure it is worse for them.

I'm of the other gender but in my 40's and still a virgin. It doesn't trouble me in the slightest nor do I ever care if that changes.

I'm not an involuntary one nor have religious issues. It's just what I've chosen to do. I'm extremely fit and active and people frequently think me to be in my late 20's & 30's, so I'm not some hideous creature no one would touch. A few people know I am and a number women over the years have asked me if I wanted to change my status with them. I've had quite a few chances to sleep with women, a number of men too (but that isn't my game). There are just so many other things to be concerned about in life. There's flowers to smell, chipmunks to watch, and rivers in which to swim.

If people start to talk about their sexual experiences at a party, I walk away. Not because I'm ashamed but I don't feel like talking about my sexual experiences (even if none) and truthfully, I don't have any interest in their experiences. It's not something I want to hear about. I would rather talk about spackling my ceiling.

I don't see what the hang up is. I wouldn't be put off in the slightest with a woman who is a virgin. Everyone is or was a virgin and if there is something wrong with them, shouldn't you have noticed these abnormalities before you got nekked? If someone would be put off by my virginity. I'd put my clothes back on, walk away, and go look at the stars above (or the sun...depends on the time of the day).

Life is way to short to worry about non-issues. None of us have long on this Earth, let's make the best of it. We can laugh, we can play, and we can leave it at that.

Due to social anxiety, I never dated in either high school or college, though I did manage to lose my virginity at age 19 to an older (married) woman I'm sure my dad put up to deflowering me. I was 26 the next time I had sex, and it's still a rare event for me now in my 40s. Yep, I'm an introverted freak who couldn't get laid to save my life.

but that is becaue they lack the looks and social skills to get any woman to sleep with them without paying for it. I suppose the concept of involunary in this case isn't complicated enough to warrant much discussion. How can it be truly involuntary if there are people willing to do the deed. If a woman goes online and can't acquire a reasonably sized pool of volunteers then I'd start to take the involuntary componet more seriously.

I'm a 26 year old involuntary male virgin. I sympathize with the women; it's getting to the point now where I feel isolated and desperate. It was easy to pass myself off as a late bloomer in my early 20s; now I just feel like a freak.

My shyness and introversion just gets worse every time I even think about the opposite sex now because I'm so hyper-aware of my virginity. I'm not overweight or bad-looking either; I just freak out every time I meet someone mildly attractive.

Now I'm ready to just get it over with; I've finally shed all the romantic bullshit about love and waiting for the right person. Maybe we should have some kind of support/singles group where nervous involuntary virgins can meet. If I could only show my face....

By the way, if women think it's hard to find a partner as an older virgin, think how hard it is for men! I personally know of no women who get excited about having sex with male virgins of any age.

OK, so what is this article telling us? Most women have sex at a relatively young age, that is before they graduate from college.

But some don't. Most of the don'ts are religiously motivated, but some are disabled or have handicaps or illnesses, and some, a few, have psychological hangups that stop them from ever having sex.

Nothing much surprising about that, and the current epidemic of obesity must surely account for at least some of the virgins.

As a man who has no interest at all in deflowering a virgin, I would have to agree that warning flags would go up if I encountered a chronologically mature woman who had never had sex. I don't see what is wrong with that.

In the slightly unlikely event of there being a woman in her mid twenties who is attractive, personable, and just hasn't got around to having sex yet because she is too busy doing other things, yet now wants to get laid,

my suggestion to her would be to go on vacation alone somewhere where no one knows her and screw the first presentable man who comes along. No one will ever know her secret.

If she wants to really impress the man, then she should fake a nice loud orgasm, and he will think she is the bee's knees.