Letters to the Editor
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Get real
I have never looked lovingly at my vagina. I've had men do so, even expressing their...delight. I've looked at and admired penises in my time. Even given them silly names, expressed my admiration, bowed to them, even. I've never called myself a goddess, except while being sarcastic, but I have called my lovers kings and gods and honestly meant it at the time. I think the Vagina Monologues play is stupid enough on its face to never have seen it, to be repulsed by it. I also skipped that Australian penis puppet show because... its also stupid and looks painful. I can't stand 95% of anything to do with "new age" crap or alternative healing movements. Hell, I know someone who almost died, literally, because of misdiagnosis and "treatment" by her homeopath. I have a relative who spends her husband's hard earned money on this crap (and he is the one who earns it, in this case), and it drives me up the wall. I warn my brothers about the vagaries of shallow women, and try to avoid such women myself. I have many male friends, to whom I give all the love and support I would give to a woman.
And yet, Brightstar and Louis, I still think you're talking nonsense right about now. I feel sorry for you, not because you're men, but because you seem so unhappy and you're making yourselves more unhappy by drawing horrible conclusions (by horribly, I mean incorrect) about women and humanity in general from whatever information you're seeing.
Louis: you're wife left you. I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you weren't difficult to live with, etc. So, you're wife betrayed you and screwed you over, broke your heart and showed herself to be a bad wife and self-centered person. That's TERRIBLE. SHE IS terrible. There are a lot of terrible people out there, and plenty of men AND women are in your situation: finding out that someone they loved and trused weren't worth all of that love. But new age whatevers didn't cause her to be that way. We're all exposed to the same stuff, and it doesn't make us all horrible people. I suspect that you can't bring yourself to think that she was this person all along, and you'd rather think that she was "turned into this" by some outside force. Sorry, guy. At some point you're going to have to realize that she alone carries the responsibility of what she did. If she parroted back some advertisement saying that she was a goddess, then she always thought she was a goddess, the commercial, or her yoga instructor, or whatever, just gave her the words (and maybe the confidence) to express what she always thought. And I'm saying that as someone who AGREES with a lot of what you said about the narcisstic and delusional nature of the new age movement.
Brightstar: We get it. You hate women. Don't expect people you hate to be nice to you. It doesn't work that way. You're the narcissist here. You're the one who thinks that you're being opressed, or whatever, whenever anyone doesn't roll over and tell you what you want. Do you hate "Bossism" too? Those bastards always expect shit from you. Those bastards never do what you want them to do whenever you want them to do it. Please. You don't represent ALL MEN, so when someone on one of these boards dresses you down, he or she is not dressing down or being critical of ALL MEN. Just you. Just you.
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Forbes is right!!!
I was the most supoortive husband there coiuld be. I took our kids to the doctor made the appointments, chaufered them to their lessons and friends. I took care of the house and the shopping and the laundry. I earned as much or more than my wife. She had a title a position, long hours, affairs and we ended in divorce. My kids are still in therapy.
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Just Don't Marry Career People, Period.
Forbes is right!!!
I was the most supoortive husband there coiuld be. I took our kids to the doctor made the appointments, chaufered them to their lessons and friends. I took care of the house and the shopping and the laundry. I earned as much or more than my wife. She had a title a position, long hours, affairs and we ended in divorce. My kids are still in therapy.
-- John Smith
And of course, this never happens with the genders reversed. Except maybe with the genders reversed, the husband can have affairs, and the wife doesn't divorce him because she can't support herself without his income.
Get real. Non-career people cheat, get divorced and do all sorts of horrible things like everyone else, of both genders.
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But it is apparently OK for women to call themselves 'goddesses' and stare endlessly in wonder at their vaginas
why wouldn't they believe it when there are huge industries involving men paying billions of dollars to do just that
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brightstar65
“YOUR CHOICE LADIES.”
You talk about men not acting like gods and being less narcissistic than women, but there you go, acting all narcissistic and godlike handing down declarations on HOW THINGS WILL BE, as though anyone with good sense wouldn’t just walk around you on the sidewalk.
“feminism will eventually be reduced to a momentary blip in the course of history, having been reset back centuries by men who feel women have NOTHING to offer to men in return for all that men put up with from women”
You should see someone about that delusional problem. Most (real) men I’ve known love women who are strong, independent, and self-sufficient. If you’ve had such horrible personal experiences, you might want to consider the company you keep. You might also want to remember that the common denominator in all your interactions is you. We’ve all had bad dates, bad relationships, bad friends, and bad marriages. Using that as an excuse to generalize is just intellectual sloth.
The only “plight” of men that has been exacerbated by feminism is the inability to behave badly and get away with it.
I’ve never had the time to stare endlessly at my vagina. I’ve been too busy enjoying my career, volunteer work, friends, and lovers.