Letters to the Editor
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simple as pie
>>The gist of this article is career women are more independent and are obviously more likely to put their career goals in front of family goals. This is not necessarily bad, but it does have consequences. This article is nothing more than a statistical review of what those consequences are. Why are women so infuriated by the results of their own choices ? Isn't that what you have fought for ?>>
Of course not, we never wanted to put career goals AHEAD of family goals. No PERSON should do that, man or woman.
I just want the freedom to follow my career goals and integrate them into my personal goals and family goals. Both men and women want to have the choice to have both a career and a family together.
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dumb blonde
Boy, am I a dumb blonde. I thought the Forbes.com piece was satire -- not up to ol' Jonny Swift, but still.... After all, it seemed to be dissing Forbes' male readers, e.g., professionally successful woman won't want to marry YOU, you incompetent, high-salaried nitwit. Ah well, so much for standards, journalistic and otherwise.
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Goals
Of course not, we never wanted to put career goals AHEAD of family goals. No PERSON should do that, man or woman.
Speak for yourself, moonbat. People do this all the time, and sometimes maybe it should be done.
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Lecastor
from your previous letters in here, I have no doubt you put your own immediate personal self-interests above all else.
Have a great life.
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Dendrio
I thought I put enough qualifiers - some, many - in there to say I don't blame all women but, the truth is, I've met very few women, since all this, who are willing to deal with these subjects seriously or with much grace. (Your response is but one example.) They think it's their right to push guys around based on their not-very-accurate mental picture of men (as Nora Vincent said) to believe in magic nonsense for "power" (as Oprah sells) and change society to favor them - and their gay friends who may despise "breeders" - when the natural order is just the opposite, and without questioning if those changes are fair or harmful. It's all based on a feminine perception and something like divorce is when it's full impact is felt. "Guys make good pets" may be a funny t-shirt but it's still a callous insult to any decent guy that supported feminism and equality and would never think to kick a "fags" ass. It's like they think men don't have feelings - or we should be able to take it - when, in my current state, my feelings are rubbed raw.
And while I understand your advice - which I've heard many times before ("You've got your freedom, dude. Use it to be happy.") - it ignores the very real fact that I didn't want this, and never knew I'd spent a third of my life with a "horrible person". I'm not trying to get laid, be the life of the party, or anything. I'm trying to sort things out. It's a lot to take: I hear women talking so easily about the joy of getting out of a marriage but I can't help but wonder if those women made an effort to talk to their husbands before they left or was it all about them, and their girlfriends, and what they decided the problem was. If they considered the pain they would cause or their own role in whatever the problem was - or just the call of "freedom". (You write like it's everything I should want.) Nobody's perfect and men are not made of stone, y'know. My ex seems to have gotten what she wanted - plus all of our money - but I'm stuck, living with the consequences of that choice, and I'm not immediately going to be out celebrating. I didn't want "freedom". I wanted a family. I wanted to be loved - and to love her - forever. Sappy? Sure. But that's why you get married. And that's one point of the Forbes article: women can be cold, cruel, and calculating, in ways that only male assholes are, and, if you don't look out, you could be me. And there's no "progress" for anyone in that. Remember:
No matter where they are on the financial ladder, men aren't telling their sons to keep a secret bank account in case they become unhappy.
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This Is Off-Topic, But...
...has anybody noticed that Debbie Nathan's essay, entitled "Why I Need to Watch Kiddie Porn", was first removed from the headline at the top of the Salon home page, and now has been deleted from the site altogether, along with ALL letters sent in response??!!
I managed to read the first page before it was deleted, and man am I pissed off. It's bad enough that such an essay was commissioned to begin with, seeing at its only goal was to tittilate. But to then delete said article, to engage in self-censorship, is just outrageous. I have no way to judge the quality of the essay now because I was not allowed to read it. But based on the first page, it was clear that Nathan intended to provide a sober - and sobering - analysis of the wave of sexual hysteria about children that has been affecting the country for more than twenty years.
Salon without doubt has one of the worst set of managing editors in publishing. They are simply incompetent and corrupt. And this incident is the most recent, and scathing, example of their perfidy.
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Mr. Dixon
your arguments are well thought out, well stated, consistent, considerate, and intelligent.
but you are pissing into the wind if you think feminists care about anything but themselves.
one day it will slap you in the face that life is not fair to men as it is to women, that women do not give a crap about this but only care about themselves, and that the only revenge you can have is to treat women rotten to get back at them for their terminal selfishness, piggishness, and arrogance.
that, or put can your dick on a shelf and act like the slave that you are to your woman.
SAD BUT SO TRUE.
feminists can try to rebut me, but the point is they should be discussing how they can change the system to include men's needs, NOT complain how I (and myriad other men who have also come to the same conclusion as me) am wrong in my conclusions.
it is all about power, and women LORD over us until the day we can breed without them. because they CAN.