Letters to the Editor
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KarenW
The man should also have a prenuptial. Realistically, a man does not need a woman (as a wife) to advance his career in this day and age. I fully subcribe that no man should marry before the age of 35, should have already purchased a home, have his career path established, have done all the playing he wanted to, have a retirement account established. Lastly, no man should enter into marriage without a prenuptial which provides for separate assets, separate career ownership/earnings, separate retirement. Odds don't favor marriage with 50% of 1st marriages ending in divorce and roughly 70% of 2nd marriages.
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cordelia525
Let me help you. I have a housekeeper who shows up 1x per week to clean the house. I am not a slob and do not need a woman to pick up after me. I have a gardener who shows up 1x per week. I do some things, when I am in town and not traveling or at another of the 2 residences I own, on the house and am quite capable of performing maintenance and repairing items around the house(s). That being said it does not make economic sense for me to do them most of the time as I make too much money and can pay someone to perform those functions. You live in a different world than I do. You make stupid assumptions which I am certain is typical.
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Divorce Rates
"Odds don't favor marriage with 50% of 1st marriages ending in divorce and roughly 70% of 2nd marriages."
Good thing that's not now, nor has it ever been, the actual divorce rate in this country. When are people going to stop trotting out that old chestnut?
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Has it occurred to NO ONE here that...
...the Forbes article was written in jest.
It was a joke people.
You really think Forbes - a gigantic publication with any number of powerful women AND men in charge - would allow this to go through as a serious article?
Come on - it wasn't meant to be taken seriously. You know it, I know it, we all know it.
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Men who want it all...
My father is a perfect example of a man who wants and gets it all without a shred of input whatsoever. He took early retirment in his late forties and my mother now earns all of the money for the household.
Does that mean that my father now cooks and cleans and takes care of the house while she's gone at work? Nope. He sleeps half the day, surfs the Internet and watches TV for hours at a time. When my mother comes home from a long business trip, he *might* vaccuum the floor right before she gets home. She's been away for over a month now and their house is starting to look like a barn. If he cooks (and he rarely does), you can bet it will either be spaghetti or a box of rice and beans. For the most part she does all the cooking and cleaning when she is home.
To boot, he's a total asshole if you approach him about any of these things. From his point of view, he's overwhelmed with "work," which mostly consists of hobbies that he has chosen to obsess about. He daily skirts his responsibilities at home so he can watch videos about horses, or surf the Internet for new books to purchase. Yes, he is mentally ill and on medication, but he consistently refuses to take any responsibility for his actions or well-being. It's a shame because he is brilliant, meticulous, and very skilled at many things.
I have spoken to my mother about all this, and I honestly don't know why she remains faithful to him or does not kick him out. If he is in any way representative of the men for whom this Forbes article is written, I don't blame these women for leaving them. It infuriates me so much, I can't write any more. For the record, I am male.
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Sounds like the one to avoid marrying is Michael Noer.
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millionaire dork
Wow all that talk about your money and your servants. You must be compensating for...something. But you've forgotten that I'm a career women. I have too have a maid. And a nanny. Which makes me similarly situated to you in regards to keeping house. However, according to Noer, I'm the problem, not you. And that my friend is the fallacy because we're the same in that limited respect.
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Congratulations on your nanny as she will know
your children better than you and be a better role model than you. Again, you define career differently than I do and do not make near the income.
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Sad part of human nature
Very smart career-oriented women set off some primal fears in many men. I don't know what causes it but it is built in to their brains, like how cats will swat at jiggling string. I don't know if this is the result of evolutionary biology or some early cultural indoctrination, but some people have these feelings buried deep inside.
When I was engaged to my wife, a beautiful bi-lingual woman who already had her Ph.D. and who studied science at Harvard and Colombia, I was warned in dire tones by a fellow grad student "You DO understand that she could wind up making more money than you!" The person said this in the same voice one would reserve for a statement like "she has leprosy" or "she is a serial killer." This didn't dissuade me. Five years later we have great jobs, a strong marriage, and a second child on the way.
I *have* seen from observing other paired scientists and professionals that if the husband is not willing to share housework and child-rearing duties with a career woman you will have a veeery hard time getting more than one child out of a career woman. If a guy is lazy his genes would be steering him in the right direction (as far as they are concerned) in seeking out a stay-at-home wife.
The one working wife who I know did cheat on her husband worked at a restaurant for less than minimum wage. She and some of the waiters got a bit too friendly.