Women who want to get laid ought to check out the men who are shorter than average and less than gorgeous. Not being a magazine model seemed to be what often sunk me, back in my college days.

Both the original aritcle and Traister's wonderful trashing of it ignored what I think is the obvious reason for ED: all the advertising designed to convince men that they have it and need help. To paraphrase a head comic from the sixties:

"Leave it to Madison Avenue to take your manhood away and then sell you a plastic substitute guaranteed to stay hard..."

--a guy (despite my moniker)

since when did it become ok to call women who express themselves as loose chicks?

Of course they can't get hard. With these harpy women with their vagina dentatas, who can?

Rebecca Traister, I love you.

In a non-sexual girl-crush kind of way, of course...

but I do.

I'm SO GLAD to read the words of a woman willing to use her estimable skills to spak out against the creeping moold of sexism that's choking our lives all over again.

You fucking rock.

Thank you.

LeCastor is Hot

LeCastor ignore all those anti-feminists out there. I love your well-written responses to the sensless misogyny that people have spouted in response to this article. There is nothing hotter than an intelligent, well-spoken, fire-spitting, woman or man.

That's hot. Rock on. Rock on.

-- The Reckless Tonge

Gosh reckless tongue, i don't know what to say. I'm flattered. I know what you mean about nothing being hotter than an intelligent, well-spoken, fire-spitting woman or man. That's why i like my bf and he likes me. ;) I don't like misogyny, but i also don't like misandry, and it's funny how the anti-feminist trolls often resort of misandry as well. As if they don't respect themselves (men), or women. Then it's easy to understand why they are scared of intelligent people.

Yet then always come back for more of my ranting...:)

not most peoples idea of a good relationship, but fairly common apparently.

Barry wrote:

That said, I also find it difficult to keep a hard on with women who don't pose at least some challenge.

And I have to ask you, Barry: How do you sustain a long-term relationship with your apparent hard-wired association between the "chase" and your erections?

You can't possibly have a long-term relationship with a woman and expect the chase to last forever. It simply cannot.

If you recall, those "Rules" gals were encouraging women to create a sense of mystery by manipulating men (not returning phone calls, etc.), but then again, one of those "Rules" authors ended up divorced. (She blamed the divorce on her dentist's bad veneer job, apparently.)

I have observed that many men who relish the chase will tire of you once they catch you. So if a man can't get it up immediately because he's into game playing, and he needs you to appear "unavailable" in order to be into you...I'd say, good riddance. He's not a keeper.

I know my comment is also "not relevant" but I felt a need to offer a little support.

LeCastor ignore all those anti-feminists out there. I love your well-written responses to the sensless misogyny that people have spouted in response to this article. There is nothing hotter than an intelligent, well-spoken, fire-spitting, woman or man.

That's hot. Rock on. Rock on.

LeCastor is an example of a chick that would sink my dick

Argumentative, insensitive, completely self-absorbed. Your dick says no to women like this for a reason. They are not good for your health!

-- No Name Given

Well, if smart women who have opinions are threatening to you, then that's your problem, not mine. I'm not looking for a boyfriend on Salon. :) It's not exactly relevant, is it?

The classic anti-feminist putdown -- don't get too smart and opinionated or men won't be attracted to you and you will end up single and lonely. So pipe down.

My grandfather said this to my mother, but, you know, times have changed. :)

(but I bet both of the are really tight)

Argumentative, insensitive, completely self-absorbed. Your dick says no to women like this for a reason. They are not good for your health!

Regarding insinuations that men are threatened by strong women, etc:

We love strong women, and quickly lose our patience with weak, insecure, insipid ones. What we don't like is obnoxious, mannish, rude, psycho, and manipulative women.

Fact is, that like virtualy everything else having to do with nature's design of two sexes, there is a complementary quality between men and women -- in obvious ways, like reproductive anatomy -- but also in terms of physiology, chemistry, personality, character, roles, temperament, etc.

Thus male strength and female strength are two different things. Ideally, a strong man and a strong woman who find each other will complement and reinforce each other with their respective strengths, and together create somethign that is greater than the sum of its parts. This is the ideal of marriage.

No they are afraid that she and every other woman she has social contact with and every woman they have social contact with will not sleep with them.

The trick here is not that men don't like strong women, it's that strong women often feel making a man feel strong somehow reinforces old stereotypes about submissive women.<

If a man needs a woman to make him feel strong, he's insecure and lacks self-esteem, period.

>Men often agree with women just to appease them on issues they don't get.<

If they honestly don't understand the issue, why not say so? (What, are they afraid women are going to beat them up or something? :)) In my experience, men who "don't get" certain issues are being deliberately obtuse and don't really _want_ to understand. They've made up their minds already and are just pissed that women won't automatically agree with them.

>Why is it women can't do the same and play the game for the sake of their men and the dicks they desire?<

Because most smart women realize that if a man is so insecure or dishonest that he constantly needs a woman to make him feel strong, that woman will be bucking up his fragile ego the rest of her life. No amount of outside praise _ever_ makes a man who basically lacks confidence in himself better--in fact, that kind of insecurity only gets worse with time. And if the woman is a strong woman, the man eventually comes to resent her for being so.