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Thursday, April 6, 2006 12:00 AM

Daddy dilemma

My fiancee is 70 percent against kids. The clock is ticking, and it's up to me to convince her to do something I'm not sure about either.

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  • Friday, April 7, 2006 04:28 AM

    Volunteer.

    Taking on an 18+ year commitment with an ambivalent partner is no solution for a man who worries he won't find his career fulfilling.

    If it's fulfillment he wants, he can make a difference in the lives of dozens if not hundreds of kids by vounteering with one of the hundreds of programs serving children and youth. And he'll still get to go out for a margarita without packing for a stroller journey or finding a sitter.

    As youth volunteers Larry and Piper may discover they like kids so much they starts a foster home. They might find the dream of children is better, for them, than the reality. Or they might learn enough about themselves to know that children are right for them -- not because all their friends have them or the nursery decor improves the ambience -- but because the work of parenting is in fact the fulfillment of their lives and skills.

    Signed, a happy childless volunteer,

    - Bum

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