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Thursday, April 6, 2006 12:00 AM

Daddy dilemma

My fiancee is 70 percent against kids. The clock is ticking, and it's up to me to convince her to do something I'm not sure about either.

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  • Thursday, April 6, 2006 10:44 AM

    My, my

    I'm learning so much about myself as woman who doesn't intend to have children! I hadn't previously realized that I was:

    *genetically inferior

    *doomed to immaturity

    *superficial, concerned only with my own selfish pleasures

    *a worse lover than women who have given birth

    *less athletic and intelligent than women who have given birth

    *incapable of the sort of love that would lead me to sacrifice myself for someone else

    *tragically missing out on snuggly naps and silly "bander" (gee, I thought I got lots of both with my partner)

    Some parents here seem to be reporting on the joys of their own lives and the choices they've made; their stories should be very helpful for people who are undecided about having kids.

    Others seem to just want to declare themselves morally, psychologically, and genetically superior to anyone who can't have or chooses not to have kids--inadvertently or not, they're providing direct evidence that parenting does NOT necessarily "make you a better person."

    Sundial

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