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Good grief, yet more navel-gazing from spoiled yuppies about that oh-so-difficult dilemma of whether to have kids at the risk of "losing yourself."
So don't do it. Here's a cold socio-biology argument for you. If you don't fully feel or can't intellectually understand the intrinsic personal and social value of procreation, don't do it. It's best for your genes to pass fom the pool, mother nature obviously didn't intend for them to move on. Have fun, take trips, fuck Piper during prime time on the living room floor, and turn out the light on your way out 40 years from now. You'll be happier until pretty close to the end, and society will be better off in the long run. Sounds kinda cold, but it's probably accurate.