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Your description of your situation sounds almost EXACTLY like where my husband and I were, 10 years ago. Mid-thirties, dual-income, awesome friends, great lifestyle... and not sure about having kids. Not sure at all.
So we performed an experiment. For 2 weeks, we acted as if we'd DEFINATELY decided not to have kids. We told our friends and family about this "decision," and our private discussions revolved around our lives together, sans kids.
Then, for the next 2 weeks, we reversed the choice, told everyone that we'd decided TO HAVE kids, and had numerous discussions about our lives together, with kids.
After this interesting, illuminating month of "acting," we
sat down and asked ourselves: during which two weeks did we feel happier?
The answer was clear. We immediately started trying to have a child, and a few years later we managed to procreate.
Something to try, if you're on the fence.
- Amy Jo Kim
