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Friday, March 10, 2006 12:00 AM

My Ambien lover

By day, my boyfriend acted cold and distant. But at night, after popping his pill, he transformed into the affectionate man of my dreams.

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  • Friday, March 10, 2006 03:51 AM

    Surprised

    Actually, I took Ambien myself for more than a year, I had no problem with it, I did sleep well every night, but I never drank while I was taking it. I think it's very useful to have the information one is getting from this article, whether or not one gets annoyed by all the trappings and accoutrements of the priviledged that it reveals, because now we know more what's going on in situations like this. It's not you, it's not the drugs, it's not drinking, it the specific combination of all three. Also I think it is useful for her to depict a relationship that kept going on fumes simply by the repetitive experience of what felt like affection, this does happen to many but the innocent and naive believe it means something when it just means that small area of the relationship is meeting your needs, while the rest does not. That this dynamic can be part of the seductive process, and doesn't necessarily mean anything (I would add especially from people who come from this particular exalted level of privilege). It's like many situations in Henry James, the super rich no longer need to collect things, they collect people and personalities and experiences and know how to play such innocents like violins. Surprising though, that the writer didn't know this already, since she is no doubt familiar with Henry James and does appear herself to come from this type of milieu, or been brought up in close association with it as shown in the biography one of the letter writers revealed...

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