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Megbon, I am very happy for you that it is working out and that you got a good outcome. You're a better person than me, because I would not be able to emotionally bond with a child who had a whole other family in constant contact.
My comment about thirty being a risky age to start trying was not directed at you specifically, but the general female half of the population. I think it's a common misconception (no pun intended, ack that looks awful!) among young women that fertility doesn't begin to decline until 35, and so I see a lot of women stuck not having kids because they start too late, based on faulty info.