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Wednesday, March 8, 2006 12:00 AM

Open adoption, broken heart

I knew it would be hard for my daughter's birth mother to give her up. I just didn't expect to feel so guilty for taking her.

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  • Wednesday, March 8, 2006 11:13 AM

    Raising "others"

    One of the posters asked whether or not people would have a problem if the woman had chosen to give her bi-racial child to a black couple, instead of the white family she ultimately decided on. My inclination is that they wouldn't. Because black people are steeped in a mainstream culture that is, for all intents and purposes, white, a bi-racial child raised in a black family would most likely have just as much access to white culture as anyone else in this country. The reverse, however, is not true. Those who are oppressed are expected, even forced, to be familiar with their rulers' ways, while those at the top of the hierarchy can rest comfortably in their artificial homogeneity. Call it the "oppressed people's burden," if you will.

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