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Wednesday, March 8, 2006 12:00 AM

Open adoption, broken heart

I knew it would be hard for my daughter's birth mother to give her up. I just didn't expect to feel so guilty for taking her.

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  • Saturday, March 11, 2006 01:36 PM

    I am stunned by Blackcanary's letter

    I never really thought about donor conceived people before becoming friends with one. She is now legally fighting to find out who her father is, she would disagree strongly with Blackcanary's claims that a child knows no difference. The statement that those things don't matter are frighteningly ignorant.

    Then to decide that Madison is lucky to be adopted because she has two mothers, well she is lucky to have been adopted by Dawn but she isn't lucky to be adopted, that's ridiculous. Further on Blackcanary contradicts herself by the deciding that one of the mothers who makes Madison's life so lucky isn't actually her mother at all. No, in fact she's a beloved relative.

    What kind of relative is she then Blackcanary? A great aunt? A second cousin perhaps? A half sister from a second marriage?

    I don't know what you call the woman who gave birth to you but I call that woman my mother. Madison doesn't have one mother and a beloved relative who isn't really her mother. Madison has TWO MOTHERS. How dare you say that Jessica isn't her mother. What a stupid thing to say. You can't be an ex-mother. You can be an ex-football player, an ex-wife but you can't be an ex-mother.

    If only all adoptive mothers were like Dawn, the world would be a less angry place. I am not saying it's good that Madison and her mother had to be seperated but I am glad that since Jessica felt it necessary to place her in a safer environment then thank God she placed her with Dawn.

    As for the ridiculous mentions of the country clubs in some of the other letters? I think you will find that black people do indeed go to coutry clubs, they are not living in shanty towns and using ropes to hold up their pants. A little intelligence please people. Please!!

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