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Wednesday, March 8, 2006 12:00 AM

Open adoption, broken heart

I knew it would be hard for my daughter's birth mother to give her up. I just didn't expect to feel so guilty for taking her.
By Dawn Friedman

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  • Thursday, March 9, 2006 08:28 AM

    from an open adoption birthmom

    Thank goodness--an adoptive mom who gets it! Open adoption is often hard for the adults, but is what's best for the child.

    I'm so glad Ms. Friedman had a big enough heart to understand why maintaining contact with Jessica was important to Madison. It's not about "Who does this child belong to?" but "Who belongs to this child?"

    I'm also glad that this article did not ignore the pain that's inherent in adoption. Too often people try to make adoption a shiny, happy thing when it's so much more complex than that. I appreciate the honesty and subtlety of this story.

    —Heather

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