Letters to the Editor
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DON'T UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF A SOUL MATE
someone who works with you emotionally and seems easygoing to you.
through hard times that connection, where the people feel like best friends to each other, really helps pull the relationship forward or keep it on an even keel.
I see it in my sister's marriage, where they hardly ever argue and are very good to each other, relatively effortlessly.
Others I see are grinding on each other or work power plays rather than cooperating.
Lots of people are compatible as soul mates, the problem is when one tries to bring in a bunch of other minimal criteria as expectations of what the other person should have in them.
a guy a while back wrote a computer program where you get to pick desired qualities in a mate and he calculates how many people in the USA would have ALL the expected qualities. Some people have such high expectations that out of a population of 280 million, there may only be 10 people in the country who match on all counts.
sure we'd all love to be married to Cameron Diaz or Jennifer Connelly (at least I would), but in reality we are all compatible with similar people to ourselves.
in my view, soul mate first, last, and mandatory, or else expect eventual divorce- which I never want.