Letters to the Editor
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Deering and Cosmicmojo
Even if what you say is true, you need to rethink what you're saying. Because even if wanting to choose clothing is a behavior of every single abusive husband, people who want to choose clothing are still very rarely abusive. Example: my wife buys me clothing sometimes and I do the same for her. Now that I think of it, I bought clothing for her before we were married. It has nothing to do with abuse or control, it has to do with love and affection. Which is to say that yes it can stay on one level; it need not get bad.
And of course, that's something countless couples do for each other. If I were to bet, I'd bet that women choose clothes for men a lot more than the other way around. And I'd also bet it's at least in part because they want to change (i.e. control) the way the men dress. Are they all abusers waiting to happen? Should the men flee at the first silk shirt?
Lestat did not hang around to find out, to get other clues about what the guy's nature really is. If you don't do that, you can never know. If I had taken the peremptory approach with my wife that she did with the guy, we would never have gotten close to the long-term, loving, mutually-supportive relationship we have now. And what a loss that would have been.
I can't think of any behavior that can't be viewed in a negative light, if that's your bent.