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Singles going steady
To avoid marrying a jerk, singles educators say you should stay out of bed on the first date and cross-examine your partner. Critics say their advice is hokum.
By Sarah Elizabeth Richards [2006-03-07]

  • I have to laugh---

    I have to laugh. Trying to foist the values of efficiency and organization onto love----that's pretty damn funny. Had my husband and I filled out a questionnaire early on---and taken it seriously---we'd have dumped each other by the second date. On paper, we have nothing in common; and as people we have grown so much since that fateful day that what we thought about ourselves then might bear little resemblance to the way we see ourselves now. What these rational programs fail to address is the profound power of a mutual and joyful commitment. These programs seem to want to lower the risk inherent in love, as if that were a good thing. Ha. I am so grateful for the creativity and faith that I have developed in my marriage---because of my marriage---and for the courage to take a bold risk and laugh while doing it. Love is dangerous. Let's drink to that.

    --Anonymous
    Monday, March 6, 2006 07:32 PM
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