Letters to the Editor
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re Relationship Seminars
Sidney beat me to the tsk-tsk, and Tracker beat me to the claim that while a cookie-cutter approach is probably a bad idea, there might actually be something here. Love may be some combination of mystewy and magic and chemical compulsion, but that doesn't mean it's always a good idea; We've all fallen for at least one of the wrong people, and some of us make that mistake -- the same mistake -- again and again and again. What's wrong with demonstrating that there are other options? And perhaps more to the point, if thse seminars are such a terrible, crummy idea, what do we say to the women who keep falling for self-absorbed Bad Boys, the guys who keep falling for needy, self-loathing babes? That they're SOL, that their chemical make-up dooms them to responding only to unhealthy triggers, and that they should just go join a celibate religious order? "Go with your gut" is swell if your gut sends messages that leave you happy and fulfilled. But if your gut is a little upgefucked -- maybe because you picked up some screwy messages in childhood -- then it seems to me that introducing the gut to the brain could make for a very productive relationship.