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To avoid marrying a jerk, singles educators say you should stay out of bed on the first date and cross-examine your partner. Critics say their advice is hokum.
  • What i liked

    was the quote from the woman who took one of the seminars and realized that she was a 'jerkette.' Often, when I've taken such soft-skill 'courses,' I've managed to learn more about myself and it's been very helpful to realize that I have certain behaviors that I might want to change.

    And being taught to recognize the controlling personality has been very helpful for me. That was the 'type' of partner I kept going for for years to my unhappy experience. I've now found someone who is neither a leader nor a follwer. Someone I can walk alongside so to speak. But it took being able to see that about her that has been the biggest help to me.

    I've said for years that relationship skills need to be taught in our schools. I'm glad that one of these programs is being used in at least some of them.