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Sunday, Nov 8, 2009
A lot of people misunderstand that 6-week ok to return to sexual activity. The doc isn't promising that it's going to feel good or "work," or suggesting that a new mom ought to want it or that a new dad ought to get it — nothing like that. The doc is just saying, "The risk of infection from sexual penetration is pretty much past." That happens for many women well before 6 weeks, but we still have that ubiquitous six-week appointment.
A lot of docs are careful to say, "It's safe to return to sexual activity when you feel like you're ready. That varies considerably among women. Do you have any questions?"
It's not like new fathers have much clue about how to go about it either, or that most of us are likely to demand sex regardless of how our partners feel. It's just uncharted territory, and no matter how many books you read and experts you consult, it's still uncharted *personal* territory.
Salon has so much content its overwhelming. But I do appreciate their choice of headline stories ranging from why I should continue to boycott Wal-Mart (3 successful years so far!) to this piece, about a sexless life after kids.
I appreciate their choices, BECAUSE I have two children, and frankly don't have the time to delve into all the content to get at something good.
Its Saturday morning, and its good to start the day with a chuckle, whilst the kids are downstairs arguing with dad over why Cheerios are round, not square.
Keep it up Salon, this is why you are paid the big bucks.
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It seems that just about everything I read online lately (especially Salon, under the new format) is followed by somebody bitching about how they can't stand the author, subject matter, website, etc. I am amazed that so many people out there read about things that don't interest them, then take the time to write snarky letters or make nasty posts about it. If I am not interested in something, I don't waste my time reading about it, and I certainly don't waste my time writing letters about it.
To the people who -apparently- seek out things they don't like so they can write nasty letters about it...
YOU HAVE TOO MUCH TIME ON YOUR HANDS. Jeez. Get a hobby.
I was absolutely disgusted by this statement from an anonymous poster: "As to Kim who says all who have kids are "assholes," who do you think is going to take care of you when you are drooling in a nursing home? Someone has to have kids, or perhaps you are hoping everything is automated by the time you need your Depends changed."
I don't know whether "Kim" actually said that; I didn't see it here. My disgust is with good, old, "Anon."
Maybe he (or possibly she) thinks it's only fair that adult children repay their elderly parents in kind for having changed their own dirty diapers some decades ago, but I find this a horrible rationale for proposing that everyone must have children. Have them because you honestly love children and are able and willing to do the hard work of molding them into decent human beings, not as a form of long-term care insurance. If having adequate care in your old age is the goal, investing in a solid retirement plan and such insurance is a much safer bet - and one that doesn't leave psychological scars.
Irony is watching people whine about how they hate "whiners." LOL! I really enjoyed this article and actually laughed out loud a few times. I don't have children yet, however I do consider myself quite sexually gifted, and I can totally see myself in the authors shoes. Thanks for a funny article about what lies ahead! Hopefully I'll greet it with humor and patience instead of despair!
Please don't listen to the people who just "cannot stand" another article about sex; really, if I wanted Salon to be like the mainstream press which only writes about sex to point fingers at it, I'd just go read the mainstream press!
The post-partum sore sex article's fairly well written and mildly amusing. Salon's Letters section is normally a rich source of good writing (often better than what's published). Article thoughts:
1) bragging is boring (and undercuts wit)
2) author's lack of common medical info and apparent amazement at the adjustment isn't credible, or interesting
3) positioning of the article is just more Sex Sells Salon
Forgot to mention, while I didn't think it was a "great" article, I did find it interesting - and not because I can identify precisely with the author's subject matter. I don't have children, and, at 47, I'm not too likely to ever have any. But, that doesn't mean I have no interest in parenting topics or other topics that are outside my own experience. In fact, learning about other perspectives is, in my opinion, the rationale and benefit of reading such articles in Salon. If I only cared about me,me,me,me, I wouldn't need to read at all; I'd just sit in front of a mirror all day and contemplate the miracle that I am ;-)
Salon publishes so much that I have time to read only a very few articles, so I appreciate the range and diversity of the subjects addressed on this site.
I also appreciate the new format that allows for the quick posting of any and all opinions, even the flaky ones such as from the whiners complaining about whiners. They tell a lot about human nature, and, like someone said, it's amusing to read them. I don't think those letter writers who are the source of our amusement realize just how ironic and funny they are - and that's what makes it so amusing!
Is there a woman in the world who does not consider herself "sexually gifted" and the guy (and who knows, girl too) in her life being extaordinarily lucky to receive her bounty? If only this were the case in reality, we'd all be better off. ANd woe be it unto him (or her) who points this out.
As for the article, i didnt think it was that bad and certainly doesnt merit comparison with Ayelet Waldman and other navel gazing women who seem to dominate Salon of late. I personally can never hear too much about birth injuries, hemorroids, etc. Good times.
thanks again, Salon.
Much of the initial coverage about Fort Hood turned out to be wrong. Is there anything wrong with that?
The accountability imposed by another country for the CIA's kidnapping and torture reveals much about our own.
Fox News' morning show plays to type, talking about whether Muslims in the Army should face "special debriefings"
219 Democrats and one Republican join in favor of the legislation, which passed by a narrow margin
The survivor and author is upset about comparisons some on the right are making to genocide
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