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Men's bodies change too, from the potbelly to balding spots. Also, as quiet as it's kept, many men lose a lot of their...virility as they age. That's just life, that's just part of a longterm relationship.
There are plenty of hot 40something moms out there, there are frumps too. Same goes for the men. Neither party should just let themselves go. Sexual attraction can continue after children.