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Most men don't consume ourselves with being so self-absorbed as this writer apparently is or so insecure. We typically have more important issues to tend to like working to pay for these things, health insurance, a mortgage payment, and a whole host of other issues so we don't have the luxury to be self-consumed and ruminate about this. We would just prefer that our wives enjoy sex and not use it as some patheic bargaining chip. Now, the follow up argument I can hear is "but we can have children". So what! Children tend to kill the sex life anyway (by virtue of the wife being "too tired" but how can men be, even though they are working harder and putting more hours in?) but children seem to be one of the most effective methods for a woman to wrangle herself a man and put the family on the financial 18-year plan. The only men that don't know that their sex life is essentially over with children are those that have never been a parent yet. The other issues seem to be that with women having children at older ages in life the affects on their bodies are much more pronounced and therefore tend to kill any romantic intentions a man may wish to muster up. Realistically, if men merely thought about the consequences of children and getting married most would not do it.
