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A lot of people misunderstand that 6-week ok to return to sexual activity. The doc isn't promising that it's going to feel good or "work," or suggesting that a new mom ought to want it or that a new dad ought to get it — nothing like that. The doc is just saying, "The risk of infection from sexual penetration is pretty much past." That happens for many women well before 6 weeks, but we still have that ubiquitous six-week appointment.
A lot of docs are careful to say, "It's safe to return to sexual activity when you feel like you're ready. That varies considerably among women. Do you have any questions?"
It's not like new fathers have much clue about how to go about it either, or that most of us are likely to demand sex regardless of how our partners feel. It's just uncharted territory, and no matter how many books you read and experts you consult, it's still uncharted *personal* territory.
