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At home with David Brooks
On the same day the right-wing Times columnist argued that women are happier at home, a mom who stayed at home contradicted him.
By Rebecca Traister [2006-01-04]

  • Broo ha ha

    I was a stay at home mom for 15 years. Now that the children are gone, I began a career as a software developer.

    A career ain't no great shakes; to be expected to work more than 8 hours at a time on one task is mind numbing and soul killing. But I do like the pay and I do like the accomplishment of finishing a project. On the other hand, I miss being the master of my domain (my household) and I miss being with my children.

    Having said that and please understand I love my children and I am glad they exist, but I didn't NEED to be a mother. Nor do I believe that being a mother made my life more meaningful than if I wasn't a mother. I suspect fulfillment is found from within (excuse the cliche).

    So people, do whatever and I can't believe this needs to be said..no one can say what is good for another, especially from someone who approaches it academically like David Brooks. He seems to live in a la-la land where one size is forever fitting all. Here's a motherly lesson my children know by rote: "Always" is never the truth and "never" is always a lie and absolutes don't exist anywhere in the physical universe.

    -- broomfondle
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    Wednesday, January 4, 2006 01:36 PM
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