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As a man in his late-30s who has done a moderate amount of Internet dating, I've been mystified by the prevalence of the word "soulmate" in the profiles of women of all educational backgrounds. It arises even among women who seem to have a fair amount of previous relationship experience. At what point in the American female experience is the prime directive to find a "soulmate" imprinted?
I've also been struck by the passivity of women who anticipate the experience of a magic "click" to tell them when so-and-so is Mr. Right. At least among my anecdotes, the click refers to something more all encompassing and mysterious than mere physical attraction.
I feel like the partner I have now breaks the mold by not subscribing to these inane notions. Maturity and realism are so attractive…Is there an educational initiative out there to debunk the uninformed superstitions that hold sway over so many American women? Love is active, not passive.
