I'm not a big fan of the reality shows. As a matter of fact, it's kind of been a badge of honor to me: When people ask "Did you see what happened on the Apprentice last night" or "Wasn't Survivor really great last week" and I say "No, sorry, I'm not into reality shows."

A few months ago, though, I caught Kathy's stand-up show on Bravo and when they advertised an episode of her reality show I decided to Tivo it. Suddenly I was into a reality show. I ended up catching about 5 or 6 episodes and grew to like Kathy and Matt.

So, in short, it bums me out a little this morning to see that Kathy and Matt are breaking up. I probably won't tell anyone though. I'd hate to lose my badge of honor.

as you admit, this story mattered to you bec it mirrored your own life. celebrieties only matter to the degree that we can identify with them. or to the degree that something is so utterly missing in our own lives that we escape thru theirs. i suggest that you take yourself and your Matt to a qualified therapist and examine the insecurities in your relationship. this divorce appears to have triggered your fears, perhaps validly so. only a therapist can help you find that fine line between a realistic appraisal of your situation and a fantasy of love lasting forever.

JBB

A year ago or so, my boyfriend was invited to a party at their house. We went, and she was so kind and funny. A fantastic host. He was a really great guy. I, too, was saddened to hear of their divorce, they seemed perfect together that night at the party.

I had begun to think I was the only one who cared. Maybe it was because I had a major crush on Matt myself... I feel much better knowing I'm not alone in wondering, "What the hell happened?"

curtis, i haven't seen kathy's show, but your article resonated; i became "invested" in it. i am the relatively

gregarious spouse married to an introverted, unassuming clark-kent electrical engineer. the dynamic of me "out there" and him "in here" works really well for us.

i, too, like to read about celebrities. i like to think i can actually discern which ones are living authentically and which are just posing for the camera at all times.

anyhow, many thanks for the analysis and musing. kathy's marital story is indeed much more poignant and interesting than most hollywood A list weirdness.

I alternately love and dislike Kathy Griffin. Love her because she's funny as hell and can find a way to zero in on the humor surrounding any celebrity or situation she's been in. Hate her because sometimes I consider her to be the unpopular girl (who wishes she were in the "in" crowd) who instead became the bully to cover up her own insecurities. Sometimes, when I don't like her, I wonder how she can talk about anyone else, when, with all her surgeries, she looks more and more like an amateur drag queen.

During her show, her husband was the person who made me think, "Kathy can't be that obnoxious if her husband is that laid back and cool."

I really hope that Kathy and Matt fix their marriage because she really needs more than her "gays" to keep her even and off medication.

Hey Curtis, thought you might like to read this. It's from Perezhilton.com, a celebrity gossip website.

You know what? Screw Jake GyllenHO! We had more important people to hang with on Tuesday night, namely our muse and one of the funniest women (or men) in Hollywood (and anywhere), Kathy Griffin.

Our love for Kathy is almost as deep as the Claymates obsession with the Gayken.

Hoping to follow-up on what we first reported Sunday, that she and her man, Matt, were back together, we asked Kathy about the relationship.

"Matt and I are like Pam & Tommy Lee," joked Kathy. "We'll fuck pigs. We'll do anything!" And that "anything" includes a reconciliation, which warms our heart.

"We're trying to make it work," revealed Kathy. And we hope these kids make it through the rain!