On Halloween, I saw Kathy and Matt in Grand Central Station, they were looking at the "you are here" map, finding their train. They looked adorable, with the same cute dynamic from the show. Fingers crossed.

I too was very upset about Kathy and Matt possibly splitting up. To the point of wondering if it wasn't just some publicity stunt since it couldn't possibly be true. I am not a reality TV fan, this is the only show like this that I have ever watched, at the start just to see more of her comedy bits, but then as a fan of both of them.

i totally felt the same way as the author; that i was seeing something very authentic in kathy g.'s reality show.

i also really want to ask the same questions the author asks about the failure of the marriage. did the reality show have something to do with the break up? was what we were seeing fake?

I grew to have real affection for this couple. Not in a creepy stalker way, but more like I was watching a couple who seemed like they'd be cool to hang out with. Such a pleasure to see a couple who seemed to be friends.

What a disapointment to learn of this separation. Say it aint so.

I'm with ya, Curtis. I was bereft at the news of their breakup. I totally bought them as the best couple ever during her show. You couldn't get any 4-1-1 on this? Don't they know who you are???? (Well, I didn't either, until I read this article, but now I want to read your novel.)

If you find out anything more about the Divorce, please let us know. Even my trusty Datalounge hasn't had any dirt.

Great article.

I guess men will always be men. I guess he couldn't handle her being the smarter, sharper, wittier, more talkative, more whorish one, in the couple. such is life. Lovely article. I think it made me cry. I think.

Could this be the drama Bravo is looking for in a second season of "D-List?" Tune in and find out?

I don't have a lot to add, just that I, too, was in love with their relationship. He loved the h*ll out of her! And she is a force of nature. I mean, how often does that happen? I was just stunned when I heard the news. It's obviously none of my business, but I felt invested in them and I want to know what's going on! They felt like friends and I want to help get them back together! Please keep us posted...

I too was disheartened to hear of Kathy and Matt's breakup. But doesn't it seem that exposing your life on a reality show is just asking for trouble? As much as I loved it when Kathy said she never imagined she could love someone so much, part of me cringed that she had exposed too much of herself. Nonetheless, as a 40-ish single woman they were my model of a perfect marriage - unpretentious, adoring, funny, and best of all, childless and proud of it. I saw Kathy in concert last month and she said "divorce sucks". I feel bad for he loss and now feel that perhaps my idea of a model marriage does not exist.

...Sittenfeld likes chick-lit now????????????

I too thought they had a great relationship. I was even more amazed to read an article that mirrored my feelings so closely. It's nice to know there are other people out there that feel as badly as I do for them.

Hopefully they will get back together.

One has to wonder if Kathy Griffin is moving up the star ladder. Is she really only a D-lister? Seems like she's moving up to the C-list now. Her career is coming along, and who knows, maybe she'll really make it. I can see her easily hosting a talk show and being a blast in the Joan Rivers mold. When Conan O'Brien moves to the Tonight Show, she should definitely be considered for the 12:30 am slot.

This is all speculation but maybe Kathy feels that if she's moving up professionally she needs to marry up romantically.

Is this not all too common among male stars? When they were nobodies they hooked up with nobodies. Who else would pay attention to them. Then they get a little famous and suddenly they need to upgrade to a more appealing partner.

Another thought is that "bad-boy"-aholics never ever get over the addiction. The addiction is really to excitement. For all of Matt's great qualities, he seems a bit dull. Kathy appears to be an energy glutton...manic to the extreme. Maybe she needs someone with more voltage...someone who can challenge her in a way that super nice Matt can't or won't.

Does Kathy realize that not many men would put up with her quirks the way Matt has. I remember how stunned I was when they showed her driving the car and Matt sitting in the passenger seat. Kathy apparently needs to be so in control at all times that she always insists on driving. How many men would put up with that...0.0001%...and Matt is one of them.

Kathy, what are you doing?

Thanks for writing the article. It was exactly how I felt about them, too.

They seemed like a terrific couple. I hate it that they apparently were unhappy when they looked so genuinely fond of each other.

Maybe he or she will read the article and post a letter here. Maybe one of them will give us the inside scoop and tell us they'll patch things up and get back together.

Please don't take that the wrong way, anyone. That's not snark, or any kind of sarcasm. It's a literal, even respectful question. I'm not looking down on anyone or anything.

It's just that I just don't get this whole celebrity-gossip thing -- but judging by the numbers that People, Us, and whatever that other one is generate, not to mention all the reality and gossip shows and websites, I'm clearly in the minority here.

I mean, I've been enough of a fan of some actors, writers, directors, musicians, etc, to go see the latest movie or buy the latest CD w/o knowing any of the details -- but it would never occur to me to even wonder whom they're sleeping with, seeing, cheating on, giving birth to, etcetcetc. None of my biz, couldn't possibly care less.

Curtis and her Prof Gamson -- and several of the posters here, too -- actually give a coupla good hints; thank you all very much.

But there's gotta be more -- much more.

Among other things, it seems that celebrity-fixation is both gender-linked and orientation-linked; unless I'm way off the mark, way more straight women and gay men care about this stuff than gay women and straight men. Am I wrong on that, and if not, what does that mean, if anything?

Any explanations -- or suggestions for further reading -- much appreciated.