I wouldn't want to try having a deep romantic relationship with a man who was that hung up on one physical characteristic. I mean dude, yeah, have preferences, but this sounds more like a preoccupation or a fetish. People are more than the sum of their physical traits. If he can't deal with that, then well, I don't think you probably want to deal with him "up close and personal." I sure wouldn't.

But as a friend, if you can get through your current crush/infatuation with him, you can still get along and have fun, if you just recognize it as one of those quirks that we can live with in a friend, but not a mate.

Cary's idea of getting a gark wig is great, but do NOT dye your hair for this guy, please. Let me clue you in: Young men say and write things such as, "I only really like dark women," because they believe it seems sophisticated in some abstract dimension. But it is baloney.

When he actually lays eyes on you, he probably will have instant conversion to Strawberry Blondes with Green Eyes. And, if not, to heck with him. Some other great guy in that same restaurant where you meet him, that other great guy WILL fall in love with you at first sight.

I know a beautiful woman who has brown hair and green eyes. She actually competed in a beauty pagent when she was sixteen, but she was too smart and too modest for that. Anyway... prettiest young woman in town... brown hair/green eyes...

And she asked me, one time, whether she should dye her hair blond and get blue contact lenses! Yikes! No! Just wait, my beauty. If some rich Dreamboat does not marry you within a year, I (poor, smart Dreamboat) will marry you.

She found a rich Dreamboat and has lovely kids who have her lovely hair and eyes. Please laugh at the Dark-Woman-Guy if he does not fall in love with you.

His is apparently not-dark-brown hair and eyes. Ask if he can introduce you to some nice guys that might appreciate you the way you are. If he's offended, no biggie, just tell him that your deal breaker is shallowness.

I'm strongly attracted to petite women, but fell in love with a tall one. We've been married for over 25 years now. Ideal body type's no big problem as long as you don't worry yourself sick over it, or let jealousy drive you apart.

All guys continue to look at, and be attracted to, other women. The ones who are going to cheat will cheat, but the rest of us still look and fantasize. The only trick is for you both to feel secure in the relationship.

Buying a brunette wig will likely please him. But there's no hurry on doing that. If you buy a wig now, you could be seen as apologizing for who your are IMO. Let the relationship develop first, if it does, and you can do it as a surprise treat later.

Be who you are, and be glad it's only hair color.

but I wasn't sure if i liked her because i like jazz and she liked synth pop. and her tat was too small...come on, like that's a total give away about ego issues and everything. so then i said ok anyway but she met someone in lit class instead.

Lots of people have a 'type' of person they are attracted to, but an individual can squash that like a little bug. He liked brunettes. He still likes brunettes. But he likes you better than any brunette he's met.

I liked guys with long dark hair. I'm now with a blonde baldy. And for the past eight years I have never been happier.

Relax before your stress hurts the relationship.

Or dye your hair. Maybe he has a thing for pink hair and doesn't even know it.

You can't ever break him of his desire for brunettes, and don't even try. I was engaged to a man who one day confessed how he wished I was blonde. Then maybe he could stop fantasizing about all the blondes crossing his path. He told me about specific people, some I knew and some I could only compare to myself in absentia, and how he couldn't get them out of his head. I'd see him looking at someone and just know. Not too long afterward, I spent crazy sums of money to be blonde (I have very dark brown hair). It wasn't enough because it wasn't "natural." It got so crazy in our relationship, I was reminding him how nearly every other person in my family was blonde, and statistically, our children could be blond(e). I straightened my hair, too, because he liked it that way more. Needless to say, I did not marry him. That was two of many "red flags" I should have taken into account. You have your two also (his attraction to his cousin being the second one). Please save yourself the heartache, and realize that many men love blondes (and will just, simply, love you for you). Good luck!

He prolly won't care if you're blond as he likes you. If it matters that much, he aint worth it, unless you're into dying your hair all the time

So wait a minute. This guy and you, you've MET, right, and you're hanging out, and having sex and stuff? And he's told you he likes the way YOU look, right? So what the heck are you worried about. This is DUMB DUMB DUMB.

Men I am attracted to are also dark-- I love native looking guys with wild strong noses and long, slinky black hair. Tall ones, preferably. They make me all melty inside. But, let's see, I've had two serious boyfriends in my life. One was a dorky looking strawberry blond guy with green eyes and acne. The other is a Jewish looking basic light brown/brown with coarse, curly hair and a short, sorta squat body (I married him, and happily).

The point. Just because you think one thing is super sexy doesn't mean you don't love someone else.