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Tuesday, January 13, 2009 12:00 AM

I'm not ready to be a stepmom

If I marry, I get a 16-year-old who can barely take care of herself.

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  • Tuesday, January 13, 2009 05:00 AM

    Wow!

    I am amazed at the sheer viciousness of some of the responses to the LW.

    She is still fairly young and is just beginning to come to grips with the situation she finds herself in. We don't know anything about her level of education, her job (if any), her ethnic or cultural background.

    At least she is conscientious enough to fold the girl's panties and not just stuff them in a drawer like some people I know.

    It also amazes me (though not as much as it used to) how quick people are to jump in and diagnose conditions like Aspberger's syndrome or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity disorder.

    The irony of it is that these "diagnoses" are just labels for groups of undesirable behaviors that have no known diagnostic test or organic basis, and for which there is no clear-cut, universally agreed treatment program other than growing out of it. So when a letter writer pronounces that the child probably has Asperger's syndrome, this is just a kind of circular argument, because we already know the child is extremely introverted.

    Just as a note, reading fantasy novels all day long just seems like an exaggeration of a typical feminine trait, as many women of all ages are prone to reading (or writing) romance novels and watching soap operas. Generally it indicates that at some level of consciousness they wish that they were living in another place and/or another time, or different circumstances, or, if married, with another spouse.

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