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Tuesday, January 13, 2009 12:00 AM

I'm not ready to be a stepmom

If I marry, I get a 16-year-old who can barely take care of herself.

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  • Tuesday, January 13, 2009 07:15 AM

    What's selfish/immature about this situation...

    ...is not that the LW does not want to be a step-mother, but that she has allowed herself to get into a four year relationship with a man with a child. And allowed herself to get involved with a man who is apparently a terrible, neglectful father.

    At least she has faced the reality of the situation before getting married and is ready to remove herself from a role in which she doesn't belong.

    I think it's unfair to condemn her simply for not being willing to be a step-mother though. I am close to her age, and I do not want to be a step-mother either, but I resolve this problem by not dating men with children to being with.

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