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All kids, whether typical or not, have issues that drive their parents and/or step-parents bonkers. It's just the nature of kids. It rarely signifies that something is wrong. Different maybe, but not necessarily wrong.
Carey's advice was spot on. LW needs to move on as she's unwilling to actually do anything to positively impact the only person incapable of removing herself from these whackadoodles.